REVEREND SUN MYUNG MOON
OUR ONE LIFE
March 4, 1979
Translator - Sang Kil Han
Man always thinks centering on himself, and so leads his life
centering on himself. Where does that tendency to value himself most of
all come from? It comes from God Himself. As man finds himself'
elevated he is happy, and he hates to find things the other way around.
Each person always has a past, present and future; in addition he is
surrounded by his family, clan and social environment. Farther away is
the rest of the world and spirit world.
Just as we want to elevate ourselves individually we also want to
elevate our families. This extends to other levels, such that an
individual would like to see his society elevated; an American would
like to see America become more developed than any other country, for
instance. All those in spirit world would like to see their world
improved and respected by others. That is quite understandable, for
certainly God is much like this.
When you examine yourself closely you see that you are part of
everything else around you and it is part of you; you live in a common
realm of existence. How can both you and your family be elevated at the
same time? This is an important matter when you seriously consider it.
Actually it is rather simple-if an individual is completely united with
his family then he will cherish the family and think highly of its other
members. In addition, if all the family members want to live for
something higher than themselves then we can say they are not only
united, but are being constantly elevated. This is not just logical
reasoning but is the way our mind naturally moves. If a clan is united
then they discover that they are looking upward and desiring to live for
a higher cause; in living that way they discover over time that they are
gradually being elevated, in the sense of developing or improving.
If you desire to be elevated but not to see others elevated in
relationship to you, you will always be in conflict. The other person
will never give in but will fight back. You will not only find yourself
to be ineffective, but actually declining as well. According to the
principle of development two people can advance by uniting for a higher
purpose. Who among men would be the center in each step along the way?
We can generalize and say that it is the one whom God loves most. What
is the standard tor finding such a person? Yes, it is the person who
always wants to himself, but we have to determine how God wants an
individual to elevate himself.
We want to elevate ourselves, not by asking other people to do it
for us, but by coming under them instead. How does this actually work?
If a person places himself in that position then the very environment
will lift him up, even though he himself may not want to go higher. We
have all experienced dislike for the person who only wants to elevate
himself, regardless of whether he has the potential to be higher. This
has been true in the past and present, and is a typical problem
This formula is always present, working on every level. If this
element is removed from man's life then no one would get anywhere, for
no matter how high a person advanced, it would have no meaning. God
took notice of this element and taught people through religion to be
humble and to sacrifice themselves. If God is really God then this is
likely to be His advice. When a person is like this then he is welcome
wherever he goes, in his family, society, nation and in spirit world,
and even God will like him very much. Is this understandable?
In Unification Church terminology this means to live for the sake of
others. Many people can't understand why they shouldn't live only for
themselves, but there is the difference of heaven and earth between
living for others and for oneself. By living for ourselves we are sure
to destroy any possibility of elevating ourselves, while living for
others is the surest way of elevating ourselves. What is the
significance of living for others? It has the meaning of recreating
something. In living for others we must make a commitment and make
something out of nothing by adding on. Because of you something will
come to exist where there was nothing before.
If a person tries to live for others then he has left many works
behind him on earth and his achievements are accumulated there to
benefit everyone. There are a great variety of ways of living for
others-some will do so by giving money, teaching, or doing medical or
military work. What is the primary way, however? By giving love.
There are many kinds of love and many steps in love. We are not just
thinking about the smaller-scale love in a single family between a
man and woman, but the largest possible love of God as an infinite
subject loving His object.
Even in love we find an order; not all love is the same. Love for
God would be the highest plane ot love; love of the world would be next,
and so on down to love of the family. We find this concept of order in
the categories of love: Love of God is the greatest; next to it is love
of the nation, society, clan, family and then the individual. Of
course, we love ourselves, but if we love the family more then our love
remains in greater form. You may sacrifice in loving the family but you
are losing nothing by forgetting yourself; the remainder of the family
cherish you in your place. That is much better than trying to cherish
By loving ten other people, you have found ten other places to live
centering on love. Then you remain in ever greater form in the minds of
those ten other people. Wherever such a person goes, those ten people
will follow him. Why would they follow him instead of going their own
ways ? The explanation is not difficult to understand. When subject
and object become one in give and take' God joins them there and relates
to them both. When God visits there and decides to stay, it means that
the family becomes perfect; then it will never perish but remain
If a nation chooses to sacrifice itself for the sake of the world,
the world will cherish it and make it the central nation. If the spirit
world decides to sacrifice itself for the sake ot God then the degree of
love there will become even greater. We have an innate element which
pushes us to want to become bigger and bigger and have more and more
value. Even after uniting with people of higher value than himself, a
person wants to go still higher until he reaches God. We always want to
elevate ourselves. Without that desire we would not go ever higher
until we reached God.
This cannot be accomplished without love. Love is the only way to
elevate oneself to God and fulfill the pattern of constantly uniting
with a higher value. As we do that we will increasingly resemble God.
No one can complain about this; the only complaint could concern a
person who doesn't become greater and greater-"You are crazy not to
become greater!" If we have this love then even though we want to
remain mediocre we will be lifted up by others, even turned upside down!
Can you really imagine that?
Why is a person born to begin with? One person might feel he was
born to study and be a scholar, while another might feel he is here to
make money. Another might think he is born to be a U.S. Senator, while
a person of lesser ambition would think he is born to do whatever he
wants to do. This question of "Why am I born?" is a serious
one. Individuals have always answered in their own way and gotten away
What answer would everyone agree with? Everyone's eyes pop open at
the thought of money, and their ears open at the thought of knowledge,
but somehow that is not the ultimate answer. What is the answer that
sounds more and more right the more you think about it? Generally love
sounds like the right answer. Why is love so good? There is much to be
gained in love so for this reason people find it very attractive, but
also it can lead you from place to place.
If a woman is sleeping will she doze more deeply as love approaches,
or suddenly wake up when it touches her? Will she snap, "Go
away!" or will she suddenly wake up? Why is love so invigorating?
What happens when love touches a supersensitive person who always has
trouble sleeping? He will gradually be melted into sound sleep. Love
works in many directions or even opposite directions. If you have been
suffering all your life and can find no hope anywhere around you, love
will melt you as if you were snow and you will forget all your
suffering. Love is a yeast of harmony. English doesn't have adequate
words for this concept. Without love, blacks and whites don't want to
touch each other even back to back, but in love they will turn around
and embrace face to face, forehead to forehead and even nose to nose.
As you know, love can be clean, or expressed in a dirty way also. A
baby may even lick at his mother's runny nose because he is full of
love. 1 saw one mother who loved her baby so much that there was
nothing she didn't touch; once her baby had a dirty diaper and she
tasted it to see whether it was acid and how warm or cold it was.
Sometimes a man and woman in love will lick each other's mouth or nose
or even their toes. Love can be expressed in a clean or dirty way.
Love is the greatest of all because it brings equality to the lowest
and highest. Equality and discrimination are much-discussed topics
today, but it is ridiculous to even talk about them without love. With
love you could walk sideways, backwards or upside down and not mind.
There is nowhere you cannot go if you have love and there is nothing
that cannot be done with love. Would it be extremely noteworthy or
insignificant if a person lived that way? Would you alone describe it
as holy, or would people in the past feel that way as well? What about
people in the future? I am the same in this. What about babies and
children? God Himself? Now you know the answer because you know how
Would you prefer to have sleep, money, knowledge or love? If you
already have love would you just sit idle? Would you give it to us one
person a day, or one hundred a day, or one hundred an hour? Isn't love
so precious that you have to economize and save it? No, with love you
have to give as much as possible; otherwise, it will be wasted. You
should do this even if you are tired, or so sick that you have to force
yourself to keep going.
If you are really distributing love in the right way, do you get
more and more tired? When you give love you want to give still more,
and you can also see hope for gaining more and more by doing so. When a
piston starts moving it gains momentum and goes up and down faster and
faster. Where is such a love in this world? The Bible says that God
gave His only begotten son, and whosoever believes in him will never
perish but have everlasting life. The capacity to be everlasting could
only come from love, from give and take which will give more power and
continue without becoming exhausted. This is what that statement means.
Love is accompanied by endless power. Even though we live a life of
sacrifice and difficulty and seem to be sinking lower and lower, the
power of love is always lifting us up and eventually we will find
ourselves in the highest heaven. The more we work and the lower we go
the higher it lifts us up, without tail. We can be elevated without
limit because love goes round and round without end; if it went in only
one direction then it would be finite, but love is the only power which
enables us to go in all directions.
The only way for man, who is in the lowest position, to be elevated
and join God, who is in the highest position, is through love. Love is
what makes everything equal and what can elevate us. God does not look
at anything without the glasses of love; He will never extend His hand
without a glove of love, and when He appears it is in the clothing of
love. This is why the whole universe will follow Him.
When you sacrifice yourself for your family then wherever you go
that family will move in that direction. God is subject over the whole
universe and when He moves everything will go in His direction. If
President Carter loves America more than any other president, when he
moves the attention of all the citizens will follow him wherever he
goes, right? Do you feel that way toward President Carter? If he
didn't love America or if he was uninterested in his mission then
everyone would be indifferent to what he did. When Jesus moves in a
certain direction then all Christians would follow. When Billy Graham
goes in a certain direction will all Christians follow him?
When the central person goes somewhere everything else will pay
attention with all its content and heart. Is that understandable? If I
observe these principles then will you want to do so as weld? Wouldn't
even God dream of everyone following me in order to inherit that
We have been talking much about living in the Unification Church,
but what is the Unification Church? In order to unify the whole
movement must we have more or less love than the whole Unification
Church? Do you have more love in you than the Unification Church
itself? Who has love? When you act, would you like to do so with more
or less love than the Unification Church? More? Great! Those who
think they have that love, raise your hands. Not so many! Those who
want to be like that, raise your hands then. Are you just deciding that
now, or have you always been like that? If you have always been like
that, why haven't you been successful? Have I failed to supervise you
successfully? Should I drive you out to do that or should I sit back
and hope you are successful some day?
Do you like it or not when I instruct you to do something? Do you
rejoice, or pause to consider it with reservations? Should I come knock
on all your doors at the World Mission Center to get you up in the
morning, or perhaps push one button to ring bells on every floor at the
same time? Would you jump up and wash quickly and dash out to meet me,
or grumble about how sleepy you are? Maybe you would take your time and
come late to the dining room for breakfast complaining about how the
bell is never out ot order.
Is it more precious to wake up a few minutes early and wait for the
bell to ring, or wait thirty more minutes after it rings to get up?
You could think that the sound of the bell is more inspiring than
eating or sleeping. Have you ever felt that a bell could inspire you
that way? You may never have felt that way because you never knew what
was connected with that bell; you never knew God was watching over you
as it rang and that's why you could be so`, indifferent Just as love
wakes up a sleepy person, that bell should wake us up instead of
sending us back to sleep. It is a messenger of love.
When I ask Unification Church members why you were born, you say
you were born for home church. When you leave the building to do home
church are you depressed by whether it is raining or snowing, or do you
feel very hopeful and loving like the rising sun? I really feel that
those members who grumble and drag their feet while walking to their
home church area should be persecuted; if they aren't persecuted by the
community then something is wrong! If you go out with love then even
dogs will wag their tails at you; it dogs are this sensitive then how
much more aware will men be to whether you have come to share love or
If people are persecuting you when you go out to your area with joy
and love then they are violating God's law and Principle, and God will
never let it go by. God will do something to them according to the law
of love. You can be confident that they should have known this
already. New York has been called a jungle, but you can visualize it
as a desert to which you are bringing an oasis; you are bringing the
water of life to the city where love is totally lacking. Once people
understand what you are doing there will be an avalanche of people
coming to drink.
Then why are we born? For what love? God's love. If you toss a
pebble into quiet water then the ripples will spread; likewise, when
you make a big noise ot love the ripples will spread throughout the
entire world. You are doing that now in daily life. The only question
is whether you are throwing a grain of sand in the water or a big rock
which you can hardly carry.
Home church is unprecedented in history, like a big rock that will
part the water with a loud smack. Should your home church work be a
small pebble or a huge rock? Will it be easy to do or very difficult?
YOU don't mind the difficulty? We like difficulty because underneath
it all lies the greatest love.
The topic today is Our One Life. Do we live to keep eating every
day? Communist doctrine states that man lives for his bread, but such
a life has no value and can only be scorned. Do you live for bread?
Would we live for the sake of love even if we starved? Would we say
that if necessary we wouldn't sleep for the sake of love? We are
undergoing all kinds of persecution for the sake of love, and one day
that love will touch us and make us forget it all. Would it be right
to live that way?
If you women are 34 years old, can you think that for the sake of
love you don't mind being old maids and will find your mate when you
are 43? If you can think like that then could you even say that tor
the sake of love you will never marry? No one answered that question
Which is better, to live only a short but intense life and then
seize a big love, or to live a long, uneventful life and gradually
embrace a great love? A person may live only a short time yet be able
to grab a great love, whereas another person may live an extended but
unexciting life and have great love at the end To live an intense but
short life and have that love is better than to have an extended life
with the same amount of love. Would you like to be crazy in love or
not? The answer is always the same throughout the ages. All people
say yes and God says yes.
Now we know we are living for God's love. You may have shed tears,
but if they were for yourself then they have only limited meaning. If
you shed tears for the sake of the country and world then you receive
passing grade, but if you shed tears for yourself first then you are a
Your ears must feel they like to hear encouragement to live for
other people. Your ears come earl, every Sunday morning to Belvedere,
and perhaps they feel, "Oh, Father is telling us again to live for
other people; it's the same old story." Would your leg say it is
tired of living that way? Would your fact worry that once people
thought you were very pretty but now after working such long hours
under all conditions you are getting wrinkles? Do you couples think,
"I waited practically for eternity and finally got married but now
I have to wait another three years to be with my mate"? Would you
feel your figure is pitiful and your hair a mess? But tell your body
that it is worth waiting for the sake ot a greater love that is really
good and everything will be opened up!
I promised Mother that I would speak only two hours this morning.
But I have an excuse that always works-if I speak with love then even
if it lasts for seventeen hours I know I can be excused from my promise.
Now you know for sure why you were born.
How could this thinking of mine live and spread throughout the
world, especially in America, since I only came here by myself? Is it
easy for one person to come into contact with me, much less be inspired
to live for other people and tor God? But I live every day for other
people and this is what makes it possible. Why do I live that way? Do
I always come here because I enjoy watching all your sleepy faces every
Sunday morning? Some of you fool; very strange! Maybe the best thing I
could do would be to let you sleep an extra thirty minutes right now,
hut instead I am joking and making faces to stimulate you and wake you
up. Morning after morning I do this. Is that a good or bad profession
to be in? What's so good about it?
If there was no love here it would be miserable, but because love
is here then even if life feels like misery it will one day be elevated
to greatness; that is why we can call this the great way of life.
There are many big churches with comfortable chairs where you are
greeted and escorted to your seat. Here no one greets you and you
don't even have a chair to sit on. But since there is such sweet love
here this discomfort is not miserable.
Even though we go to hell I, if we bring love there then it is
heaven. Do you really know this now, or aren't you sure yet? Do you
think you have to wait and see it this really works, or can you tell
whether this is the true way by using your own judgment. Is it as real
to you as sleepiness when you are tired" If you are really sure then
there is not much more to teach you. You are already well-prepared
and the only thing let's to do is act on it and keep on going. Will
you do that? Even if both God and I tell you not to do it? Will you
still do it even if no one is watching or supervising. If this is true
then I am a successful man.
If you were conceived in love, born in love and living in love then
inevitably you are grateful for being born and for living now. The
very fact that you, are able to leave a great love behind on earth when
you go to spirit world is a great thing.
You must realize that you are a participant of your parents' love.
Have you ever seen people tight when they were in love? You are born
of the love of your parents, who also were participants in their
parents' love. You are the living manifestation of your parents' love.
You are a result of their love, so you must live your life waving with
love like a flag in the wind. When you see your parents and your
brothers and sisters you have to wave your flag by showing love to
other people. Did you do that in the past'.'
You must become dedicated sons and daughters ot filial piety. What
are such children? Are they the ones who help their parents rest when
they are sleepy, or who can help their parents sleep comfortably even
when they feel uneasy and restless? With what could you do that? With
love. More than bringing food when your parent is hungry, being able
to make him happy when he is poor is a higher act of filial piety.
With what? With love.
When parents are old and close to dying, you have to treat them
better and love them more than if they were little and very young.
When they were young they may not have needed that care, but now they
do. Bringing laughter to very old parents as though they were in their
teens is more important. It is even better if you can make them dance
and rejoice. If your parent was dancing and then had a heart attack as
a result, then his was a happy death. Though someone may accuse you of
killing him by making him dance, he has no grounds for saying so.
Have you ever thought of how to make your own parents happy in this
way? What a great ambition it is to make your parents happy when it
has been a long time since they laughed. When God looks down at the
genuine effort you are making for your own parents will He tell you not
to bother wasting your love on them? Or will He shed tears at the
beauty of that scene? Your parents will cherish you for that. Your
parents will sincerely say before God that you are a son or daughter of
filial piety and acknowledge you to Him. God will really remember such
Many times people are excited when their parents bequeath land or
much money to them in their will, but that is nothing compared to the
inheritance ot the heavenly task or work. That is the greatest
inheritance a parent can give to a child of filial piety. If a person
has a filial mind and cares tor his brothers and sisters and society,
then everyone will remember him. If he encounters God with that mind
then he will be the most loved one.
Did Jesus have parents like this. or such brothers and sisters?
Was Jesus able to do anything for the sake of his country? Jesus never
had a country he Could] work for with that heart, and when he comes
again he will indeed do so. The Unification Church is doing exactly
that. Since this thought has never been known to the world, we are
teaching, the concept of true family and parents, and therefore true
brothers and sisters. When we apply this everywhere in the world, it
will be none other than heaven.
Is it the right attitude to listen to me but no one else? It is the
kindergarten level to listen to me, but when someone else speaks to you
with love like mine you must listen to him as well. Love is everywhere
and unchangeable, so you have to listen to that love wherever you find
it. It goes beyond time and place. If you listen only to me and not to
someone else who has the same love then if I go away or to spirit world
it would mean the Unification Church could no longer exist. That, of
course, could never be true.
We must have a tradition, not just loyalty to one person, and that
tradition must be respected as much as you respect me now. The True
Parents' own love is part of that tradition; therefore, we cherish that
tradition and must listen to the person who stands in behalf of it. In
that tradition you have to be able to treat people all over the world
with the same heart, not just your close relatives. Whether or not you
can do that will determine what kind of heaven you can make.
If you were riding on the subway and saw old people standing while
young people took the seats, would you ignore the old people and sit as
well? isn't this a free country? You are free, but freedom comes only
on the foundation of the cosmic principle; nothing which lives contrary
to that principle can have freedom The order of the universe is
determined according to this principle. If a person feels he should
work harder because he is getting paid more than others, his is not
really the highest thinking. The employee who works for the company
with genuine heart, being completely conscientious no matter how much he
is paid, is the only one who is worthy of being paid, and is worthy of
receiving special notice by the president.
We must think deeply about this because you know that even after
joining the Unification Church you have hurt other people, right? You
must change that. Some American women get married and divorced for the
sake of alimony, don't they? Do you think that way? Did you join the
Unification Church to marry a good person, or because you wanted to have
greater love? Although you may be inferior to some high-level
people in the world, still you are able to give greater love than they
If you were me, would you sympathize more with American men or
women? After I came to America and studied American culture I became
more convinced that in a subtle way American women had more to do with
the cause of evil, while the men were rather obedient to their
initiatives, just like servants. Often they are easily deceived by
their wives' explanation, of what they did during the day, or in
As a rule in entertainment on television or in the movies the women
arouse the most hostile feelings. Do you think men are more
hell-raising than the women? Answer me clearly! Naturally 1
sympathize more with the men, and when it came time to distribute
indemnity I thought of how the women should take a greater portion.
This is reality, in addition to the fact that Eve was the one who
initiated the fall. 1 am confident of this understanding. Would any of
you say I am not fair? Is this thinking good if it means the women can
receive more love as a result? Do you welcome that or not?
I chased all the women out, even those who were heavy with pregnancy
and tired all the time. Looking back, they think that even their
husbands couldn't have persuaded them to do this and then they are
genuinely grateful to me. Because of that gratitude their whole family
will receive blessing. "1 am having this one baby, but spiritually
1 will have millions of babies, embracing this world with the greatest
love." When you feel that then you are on the right track.
The one great principle we have been talking about this morning is
how the individual can sacrifice for his family, and then it is not
sacrifice at all but will elevate him. For the clan, the family can be
sacrificed, and for the world the nation can be sacrificed; for the
sake of God, everything can be sacrificed. That is good because then
everything can be elevated to the level of God. As a result the
Unification Church can bring up everyone who is in hell on earth to
heaven and God. We are doing this with great love.
We go to other countries to love the people there, and when we go
to spirit world and become one with people there we will bring them up
to God. In doing so you are like a ladder for them to climb up. They
will cherish you for that because without you they could never have
climbed up. You can rejoice at serving your purpose. Now you know
that you use me as your ladder to climb up to God. Not only that, you
can freely use all the highways 1 have paved on earth.
Will you stop with what you have grasped now, or go on and on for
the rest of your life? Since love is eternal you must determine that
you will continue in this for eternity, not that you will go just one
certain distance. Will you be exhausted by living this way in love?
Would old couples feel that they have already gone through love and
that now just young people will do it, or will they go this way forever
too I? You have had a great opportunity to be here with me, so now do
you feel free to go your own way, or will you live eternally with me?
It you have genuine love and honestly want to live with me then I
will approve it. But if you have your own objective in mind then 1
will not welcome your wanting to live with me. Must I like you since
you like me? Or since I like you will you like me even more? The
second answer? Great!
It you are confident to live your life according to this principle
then your one life will be perfected in every way. This is not an easy
way, but if you are determined to do so regardless, raise your hands.
This is a very, very, very, very, long way which continues forever, but
do you choose it so you can grow perfectly? Great!
Let us pray.