Blessing and Ideal Family
by Reverend Sun Myung Moon
THE LIFE OF THE BLESSED FAMILY
1. THE BLESSED FAMILY SHOULD BE A GOOD EXAMPLE
Blessed families should feel the mission to determine the future of
the whole. A couple and children are in a family. The family should
not become a slave of habit. The family is the starting point of the
four position foundation. Oneness of husband and wife is absolutely
needed here. You should unite with the original standard which God
In establishing a family-level foundation, when a wife fits into the
husband, when a husband fits into the wife, and when the children
become one, the family will be blessed. Now is the age of family
salvation. We should restore the family; there's no better witnessing
than that. A couple should pray in tears holding the children's hands
at the break of day, so that the children sing songs of yearning for
their parents when they are away from home.
From now on, we should anathematize things worthy of cutting with a
dagger. You are not supposed to do it on your own. The Unification
Church is to establish the Kingdom of Heaven; that's why we are to
look for the family, not an individual. Do you understand? The family
department will be the most important post in our church. A person who
cannot be a good example in family life will receive worldwide and
The Blessing is precious after fulfilling the condition of
responsibility. Men shouldn't create fist fights and women should be
careful with their mouths. They should not use the abusive language of
the secular world. They should be different in some way. The family is
the micro-church; it should be the agency of heaven. It should be the
family that God wants to visit. At least three families should run one
household. First, a family should be the place where many people can
come and go; the harmony among men is most important. Second, heavenly
families should be united into one. At least a trinity of families
should be completely one.
We center on the family, not on the individual. This doesn't mean that
everything is to be cut off centering upon a family; rather, the whole
should be linked up centering upon a family. The effort to cultivate a
solitary moral life is not enough. You should determine to make
several times more effort than before.
We are apt to be tired and retreat from the life of challenging evil.
After having a family, you should make several times more effort than
you did when you were single.
The family is the axis for fixing the focus. We cannot escape this
reality. The relationship of "front and rear," "right and left," and
"up and down" should be established in a family.
The form of faith that you had in the past is not enough, nor is your
former one-sided attitude of faith enough.
Individual prayer worked when you were single; but if there's even one
opposing person in a family, the family has to penetrate the problem
together, shouldering the cross of disunity until the original
standard is met. An individual is like a railroad car and a family is
like a locomotive. It is simple to restore an individual mistake but
the mistake of a family leads directly to rupture.
The family is important. If one partner fails, no relationship can be
made. When a virgin and a bachelor are in love, they usually forget
all their ideals. The starting point of everything for us is the
family. When you fight insisting on your own opinions, the nation and
Heaven and earth will perish. The family is the hole through which we
Individual faith can grow well when one meets a good leader; but in a
family, everybody should be the leader to one another. For whom and
for what a family exists is the problem. **
The nest of Sabbath for children is the love and pride that they have
toward their parents.
We need a foundation of complete unity between parents and children in
a family. But what will it be worth if there's no nation, even though
you have many children? Nothing will be useful if there's no nation.
When the loyal subjects a long time ago received something good, they
offered it to the king of the nation first. That was the regulation of
the life of loyalty in Korea.
In that perspective, Korean courtesy has heavenly contents which are
not found in any other nation. The Confucianists follow Confucianism
and there are quite a lot of manners prescribed in Confucian teachings
which are similar to heavenly law.
You should make your descendants perform a sacrificial rite for you.
So far, the regulations of life and the procedure for holding a
funeral have not been established centering upon the Principle; but
from the time the standard is set up, you shouldn't behave on your
own. You should develop and keep the vitality of life to survive and
grow no matter what kind of storm comes, overcoming your environment
and taking root deeply centering upon the mind that God is always with
us in every situation. If you become like that, heavenly law will not
be a big problem; but if you don't become like that, problems will
Don't treat your ancestors as real ancestors. There were good
forefathers among the ancestors born after Adam, but anyway they were
unfaithful to God -- that's why you shouldn't treat them as your
ancestors. Then who is our ancestor? Our fallen ancestors cannot be
considered as such. But among them, there were outstanding chosen
ancestors. We have focused upon Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses and Jesus
in the Bible in order to honor their hard work for God. So centering
upon such faithful ancestors, we are to unite. Let's serve and attend
the Father whom they were calling, whom they were attending and whom
they were living for, as our Father.
2. THE FAMILY LIFE OF BLESSED FAMILIES
Pledge of the Families:
We families, the center of the cosmos, brothers and sisters
vertically connected and flesh and blood of the True Parents
before the new heaven, pledge and swear before the True Parents
to become worthy of possessing the glory of victors by
maintaining our positions in responsible activities and by
observing the family laws and traditions decreed by heaven. This
Because original human beings are born through the bond represented by
the content of the "Pledge of the Families," they are to live and die
within this Pledge. We should be able to read this Pledge without any
We have been living and speaking carelessly, but now we should
establish regulations in our families. Parents shouldn't beat their
children due to anger or speak secular words of condemnation to them.
Now, everybody should be one. Words, attitudes and way of life should
be one, centering upon God.
The Blessing doesn't have any meaning in one generation itself. It is
no more than one man and one woman living together. Then, what is the
providential content of an individual's Blessing? It is not enough for
the blessed families to live according to their original minds, but
they should establish a four position foundation centering upon God.
Because human history started from the fall centering upon Satan, it
should be restored centering upon God. It is inevitable for fallen
In order for the head family to thrive, the family members are to
accept and conscientiously practice the family rules and etiquette.
But people with an attitude such as, "Those rules have nothing to do
with me," cannot be the offspring of the head family. Such a one
cannot be the heir of the head family even if he is born as its eldest
How to maintain the pure blood lineage coming from God is the
challenge. It is significant to keep the pure blood lineage in an
unchangeable condition, not as blood which has the possibility to
fall. We must care sincerely about this. It is very difficult to
become pure in this fallen world; the first human beings fell even
though they were in the unstained Garden of Eden. Various problems are
involved here. The blessed parents born in the fallen world, in spite
of their suffering, should make an unstained environment for their
blessed children. It is Father's thought to prepare such an
environment as quickly as possible for the second generation, no
matter what sacrifices are entailed. We have to hurry.
In order for you Americans to be liberated from the sinful world, you
shouldn't have the concept that you are American citizens. Instead of
thinking that you are American or Korean, you should have the concept
that "I'm God's person, the object of Heaven." You should dedicate
your life as if you are sharpening a dagger to cut cruelly the sinful
nature which permeates the customs and habits of the fallen world,
including the language, clothes, shoes and women's cosmetics. This
dedicated life can liberate the sinful world. There's no way to
subjugate the sinful world unless we get victory over the secular
history, habits and bad customs which pervade the environment.
You will have to be liberated from such bad environmental conditions
if you want to become a true person, restore a true nation and to go
to the Kingdom of Heaven.
Your family shouldn't become secularized and slaves of habit. You
shouldn't think, "Things will be better in the future even though it's
terrible now." You are to be perfect now; the present is the problem.
When the past and the present are perfect, the future will be perfect.
Not having a perfect day in the Garden of Eden is the evidence which
corroborates the fall. The place where the past, the present and the
future can be united into one is the ideal.
You should be able to offer "the Present." God's desire is to set up
the eternal stepping stone on earth. This is the historical synthetic
If you lead one year with the standard of sincerity which you felt on
God's Day, your daily life will be influenced. And if you lead the
family tradition with such a sincere heart, your offspring will never
The reason for the destruction of the Israelites after they entered
Canaan is that they become routinized and their mental focus settled
on the life of eating and luxury. The Israelites who became wealthy
even married the Gentiles. They were after power and fond of
knowledge. They perished because they assimilated the ready-made
Canaanite culture and sold the spirit of the chosen ones to the
Don't become a slave to bad habits. Habits are the worst illness. If
you lead a habitual life after marriage while rearing your children,
habits become part of your body. You will no longer find time for
prayer or special heartistic offerings in such an environment. There
is no time for prayer when the children make noise right beside you.
3. THE LIFE OF HUSBAND AND WIFE IN A BLESSED FAMILY
Blessed families should renounce the conventional concept of living.
The ideal couple that God originally desired was to return glory to
God, but instead the fallen couple returned sadness to God. There is
the disloyalty of the archangel as well as the irresponsibility of
Adam and Eve. The archangel first was supposed to set up the condition
of loyalty and filial piety to God, but he failed to do so. Therefore,
the restoration providence is to set up the conditions of loyalty,
filial piety and virtuous love.
Even though we as fallen people try setting up such conditions of
love, we cannot reach the original standard because the enemy
interferes with our loyalty, filial piety and virtue. It's easy for us
to speak and think of being loyal to the nation, dutiful to our
parents and faithful to our spouses, but the original loyalty, filial
piety and virtuous love are different from what we imagine. That's why
we need the central point.
Because God has been setting up the heartistic center of loyalty,
filial piety and virtue in love, all religion and morality must follow
this standard. All religious people and Jesus have been trying to
establish the family for the purpose of setting up the condition of
loyalty, filial piety and virtue in love. God established the nation
of Israel in order to look for such a family. Jesus could have made
Satan surrender if he first had set up the morality of loyalty, filial
piety, and virtue in love, and then had become the priest to expand
When children mature, they are to replace God's doctrine with His
Blessed families shouldn't fall behind anyone in establishing loyalty,
filial piety and virtue in love. Loyalty, filial piety and virtue in
love start from the family. To be blessed is to inherit Father's
wishes. In history there have been families of loyalty and filial
piety in front of God, but there has been no family of virtue in love.
We cannot set up the condition of virtue in love until God's Day comes
and Satan's accusation is overcome.
Men gathering here should love their wives more than any other
husbands do in the world. Women also should love their husbands more
than any other wives do in the world. That is the morality of love
that the parents of the blessed families should keep.
Blessed couples are to enter the Kingdom of Heaven when they
accomplish horizontal love centering upon the foundation of vertical
When a husband or a wife can love his or her object as the
representative of Heaven, earth and all humankind, that family can
represent all blessed families.
The main thought of the Unification Church is, "Our family doesn't
exist for the sake of our family." It is conventional wisdom that
women are to follow their husbands, but that doesn't work in the
Unification Church. The way of the virtuous women is to live for the
nation, abandoning husband and family members if they are centered on
the family alone.
Set up the family tradition. Follow the way centering upon the one who
stands straight in front of God.
What kind of family is the exemplary family? When a family doesn't
fulfill its mission, the whole family will be caught up and the
ancestors in the spirit world will not be able to cooperate.
When a family sets up the tradition as the substance of Jesus and the
Holy Spirit, the national and worldwide tradition can be established.
We shouldn't be sad when one of a couple who worked for the providence
The blessed couples shouldn't lament, even if their husband or wife
dies early. They shouldn't remarry; otherwise, they will be caught up
by heavenly law in the spirit world. They must report in front of God
and follow what God directs them to do. But nowadays there are many
who are not doing so. What will be the result? It doesn't appear on
earth, but you'll know when you go to the spirit world. Such a person
will stand in a position worse than Satan.
Father knows all of your past experiences. If you ask me, I can tell
you right away what happened in your past. Would the bride and the
bride. groom ask each other's past? Or would you forget your past?
Because Father decides to forget your past, you also should forget
Blessed men should be completely one with Father. Then there is no
connection with sin. You as Father's incarnation should start your
life in the subjective position; and the object, your wife, should be
one with the subject and absolutely obedient.
When you blessed couples start a family, the husband should lead a
public life (life of service) and the wife should be in charge of the
family life (the domestic life). Will you be a representative and
exemplary family? "Moonies" are reflective, "Sunnies" are luminary,
and "Kingies" are comprehensive. Therefore, you should be Kingies, the
comprehensive family. The ideal should be actualized through God and
A person who is in debt cannot flourish. A family member who likes to
be indebted to others in the family will be isolated. It is the
principle of human life that if the family members are indebted to
someone else in the family more than to the parents, the parents will
give all the authority and power to that someone else. Wives should
not be indebted to their husbands; neither husbands to wives. The
eternal peaceful world comes from the family in which no one wants to
be indebted to another.
When you work in an agricultural community, you are not to work alone.
A husband and a wife together are to report the day's schedule to God
before going out to work and they are to report to God after work and
then eat dinner. You should know how strict is the God-centered
standard of life.
There are regulations of family life for women and men respectively.
Blessed families are to systemize their lives with such great heavenly
regulations; otherwise, they will be in trouble.
Give for the sake of family, nation and world; this is the principle
of three objects. In walking, men are to step right foot first and
women are to step left foot first. Men are supposed to sit in the East
and women in the West. There is always a certain order to do
anything -- the order of setting the table or the order of hanging
Man is to look down upon woman from above, and woman is to look up to
man from below. Woman shouldn't look upstream at flowing water, but
should look downstream. A woman looking upstream is the type who will
be good at playing with love.
Woman is to prepare the place for man to sit. When using a wardrobe,
man is to use the right or upper side and woman the left or lower
side. Woman shouldn't put her skirt or underwear on the man's upper
clothes. The woman's clothes shouldn't be on the man's clothes.
The wife of a leader shouldn't nag her husband when he is about to
leave for work in the morning. The disturbing ripple effect from his
heart created by his wife's nagging will disturb the world and make it
unclean. Woman should nag at night and then all the problems should be
solved overnight. A man should launch his battle plan every morning;
the wife of such a husband should wake up early and serve him well.
Women always should be beautiful even if it requires using make-up and
perfume. A wife should not be indebted to her husband in emotional
life, and she should always concern herself with her husband's body
and clothes. When a husband looks tired after working, she should
prepare water to wash his face, and toothpaste and toothbrush to brush
his teeth, and she should be able to wash his feet and comb his hair.
A woman's smile is the flower of the family. In order to establish a
harmonious family, the woman should be a first class actress in both
comedy and tragedy. She should completely melt her husband all the
time, whether he is joyful or sad.
Woman should change her clothes and wash her hair at least once every
three days. And always smile. A smile is a mental flower. Always keep
your flowers in bloom and give off a sweet smell!
Woman should test the object's response to her hairstyle and make-up.
Think of it as a hobby to alter your external appearance if you cannot
make the object joyful and attract him to you. Mobilize all the
artistic senses like a symphony. You may research woman's physiology
by looking at magazines or explain to him about literature after
reading several books. Make your husband live inside the width of your
skirt like a baby.
Once a man and a woman meet at all, they should be together holding
each other's hands regardless of going the way of death or life. As
long as you have to go together, be smart and stylish.
After getting married, you cannot act in whatever way you want. Where
must you go after marriage? You are to take charge of God's love.
Human beings are born separately as man and woman because of love.
Love is to be fruitful by means of a husband and a wife becoming one.
You are the divided substantial bodies coming from God's dual
characteristics. In order for divided beings to become a harmonized
union, they should look for God's love.
In order to encounter God's love, man and woman should be one in love.
Unless man and woman become one, there is no way to meet God's love.
Meeting God's love compels us to stay in the same position as God.
Staying in the same position as God means standing in front of God.
When you become one centering upon God's love, on the foundation of
complete oneness in conjugal love, you are not only to reach God's
position but are to possess all of God's belongings. The power of love
is such an amazing force. You are to inherit the right of possessing
all of God's property, and at the same time He allows you to
participate in His authority.
If you focused on loving each other neglecting God's will, you should
feel shameful in front of God. This is the life of blessed families.
If you lead your family looking after your own happiness, your family
will never develop. So, if something good happens in your family, it
should be related to the nation, world and Heaven. The joy of the
family should become the pride of the nation, world and Heaven.
When they embrace and love their children, blessed parents should know
clearly the purpose for which their children were born. They were born
because of God; they were born through the affinity of God. Even
though you may have a secret talk with your precious husband or your
precious wife, you did not meet your spouse by your own decision. You
met in the presence of heavenly law. God intervened to create your
meeting. So you should understand that the more you become miserable,
the more God becomes miserable.
4. THE PROVIDENTIAL LIFE OF BLESSED FAMILIES
The couple should know that they are the elements necessary to
accomplish the will of the whole and God's will. If the blessed
families live for the benefit and well-being of themselves, not for
God's will, their children will be miserable.
Trying to follow the will of God with the motive of fulfilling your
own desire doesn't make you go forward but rather makes you go
backward. There are so many examples of this. You cannot mix your
individual desires into God's will. If a husband and wife live for
their own benefit and desire even after the Blessing, they are merely
a reappearance of the fallen Adam and Eve. The fall starts from greed.
If the Blessing is established in order that it surrender to your
subjectivity, the Blessing is not fair.
For what did you come to this mountain peak? If you came here to be
successful by listening to the words, you will perish. But if you are
here to become a plus to your village, nation, world and heaven by
listening to the words, you came to the right place. Even though
Father appreciates you if you are here just to enjoy seeing him, this
will flow away pretty soon. So you should set up a clear standard to
do any sort of work if it benefits God.
If a husband and wife set up the foundation of thorough heartistic
oneness, inheriting God's ideology, future descendants will praise you
eternally. The standard of such praise shouldn't remain in one nation,
but it should be the heartistic pivotal point which can be pursued by
the whole world. In order to set up such a standard, your family
should start with the determination to overcome any difficult
What road have you walked? If you have been busy taking care of your
sons and daughters, you won't be able to meet God in the spirit world.
God lost all the created world by losing human beings. Therefore, even
though you live with your sons and daughters, your mind should always
live to love God and to accomplish God's will. If their parents died
through persecution while trying to accomplish God's will, the sons
and daughters will be proud of their parents' life.
You should know that the more miserable the place you enter, the
closer God is with you. Sometimes when I opened my eyes, a light was
radiating in the sky. When God is with us, such phenomena take place.
What a beautiful panorama! There are so many handsome men and
beautiful women in the world, but they are nothing compared to such a
scene. Such beauty can be seen only in the world of dreams. The place
where beauty can be expressed completely is the ideal world -- the
Kingdom of Heaven we all desire. If a person like Mr. Park here saw
such a phenomenon, he would forget to breathe out after once breathing
in, keeping his mouth ajar in deep wonderment.
When we silently sacrifice everything for the sake of God, He will
protect us. God surely will be at our side.
Your family should be the family of love, and you are to become the
public husband and wife or parents centering upon God's love. Don't be
the personal husband and wife or parents centering upon yourselves.
Usually there is no public husband and wife, no public parents and no
public sons and daughters in America. They are not walking the way of
public love; instead they are walking the way of private love, in
which the love of husband and wife, parents and children is centered
upon themselves. Such love destroys the nation and the world.
When you become the center of the world after loving and sacrificing
for the sake of the world, you automatically will be able to launch
your individual love. Then God will love you.
A great person doesn't only manage the household for his or her own
family or nation; he is the one who manages the household for the
world. And who could be a person greater than that? The greatest is
the one who is willing to manage God's household.
In this respect, saints do not dream centering on the human household;
they are the dreamers whose center is God's household. The founders of
the religions, Jesus, Confucius, Buddha and Mohammed, realized God as
the essence of the household of a dimension higher and more ideal than
the human one. That's why they longed for the ideal.
You were called to the providence and received the Blessing. That's
due to God's enormous love; that was not founded upon your will.
You've gained life for free, due to God's unconditional love.
Therefore, all of you are heartistically indebted to God. Even though
God doesn't ask you to pay the heartistic debt, you have to
participate in His situation and follow His will if you wish to regard
yourselves as His children. Interests or consequences cannot intervene
in the parent/child relationship. Only love exists between them.
Children don't work to pay their debt to their parents; rather they
participate in their parents' work because the parents' matters are
the children's matters.
We have to reflect upon how much we blessed families have participated
in Heavenly Father's concerns. If blessed families think Father's
concerns have nothing to do with them, who will inherit Father's work?
If you found Heavenly Father by joining the Unification Church and by
meeting Father, you have to be grateful. It was not easy at all to
establish the Blessing in the course of the providence. It is not
practiced like certain memorial celebrations or annual ceremonies. If
you know the value of the Blessing, you should be able to inherit
Father's concerns and heart.
A son born of a great father is responsible to succeed with everything
of his father's.
Everyone stands upon the same central point, but the horizontal
expansion differs, from the family level to the tribal, national or
worldwide levels. Father and you stand upon the same central point.
The center cannot be two. While Father has the worldwide mission, you
have the individual, family, tribal or national mission. By making
effort you can extend your level to the broader dimension.
What is your situation after receiving the Blessing? The world to
which you have to go is the world to which Father has to go. The
nation to which Father has to go is the nation to which his son has to
go, isn't it? Likewise, the glory that Father will enjoy is the glory
that his child will enjoy.
Then how much have you researched what Father is doing? Have you read
Unification News and Today's World all night to find out what is
happening to Father and his family? How many pages do you read when
you receive those? You have read many worthless books linking to
Satan, and carried on worthless research on satanic matters, but how
much have you researched about Father? You do not have confidence.
You should know clearly whether or not you have lived for God's will.
There are people watching how the blessed families will become
compared with non-blessed families. When a baby calls, "Father," God
doesn't hear it as one baby's voice, but He hears it as the voice of
God gives us grace after the trial. When Father looks at my white
hair, I feel sad at realizing that I haven't done enough by the time
of reaching this age. If Father shed tears ten times, you have to shed
tears at least once. The blood, sweat and tears shed at the place
where we meet Father are different from the blood, sweat and tears
shed by any other people in history. Let us shed tears by meeting and
embracing Father in the nation for which Father has been searching.
You shouldn't be the husband and the wife that you were when you
didn't know the Principle. If there's a way to receive grace and to
inherit God, you should go forward, interested in the greater value of
the ideal even if you lose all of your assets. You'll be punished
right away if you hide some of your assets in a comer. That is like
theft. Thieves who steal another's materials are to be punished. It is
a most frightening thing. It is a crime.
Your family shouldn't just exist for your own family but for three
million people; and your body is not yours but is the one to go upward
by representing three million people. In order to go this way, first
of all you should leave everything to do with material things up to
God. That is what Father did.
The things that I possess are not mine but belong to God and the
universe. All things of the universe are to be resurrected, and you
have to raise your children not as your own but with the view that
they belong to God and the universe. A husband and wife are not
limited to being each other's private possessions; they represent
heaven and earth.
Don't just make effort for your own family, but undertake great
endeavors for the nation. Because I treat you as people of character,
you think I am the teacher of the Unification Church only; but I'm not
teaching one church alone. Wait ten years; you'll see what I mean.
Blessed families are precious. You should start in the same position
as Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. You should start without even
clothes, like Adam and Eve, but you have clothes. Did Adam and Eve
wear clothes in the Garden of Eden? They hid themselves with nothing
but leaves. They didn't have a house. In this respect, blessed
families nowadays cannot say that they are suffering. Our blessed
families all have houses and clothes.
It is a greater blessing to leave descendants who are determined and
proud to gain providential victories by the trillions than to sing
joyful songs of blessing. If you came to the Unification Church for
your well-being, pack up right away and leave. Such self-centered
motivation destroys you. If you are worried about your children and
your wife, God's dispensation will not be accomplished. It will
Did you join the Unification Church to eat three meals a day? You are
not suffering for your entire life in this church just for the sake of
eating three meals a day. If your initial determination to save the
nation and live for righteousness was not a lie, you shouldn't
hesitate to do anything. Don't forget that you will turn into a pillar
of salt if you hesitate due to attachment to the past.
Do you think Father created the Unification Church and endured all the
persecution and accusations just so that he could have enough to eat?
When I look back upon my life, there was not a single day when I ate
enough and slept comfortably. In order not to forget the hunger that
others were experiencing, I intentionally starved myself and suffered.
I couldn't allow my stomach to be filled and myself to indulge in a
The people who died while trying to fill their own stomach cannot go
to Kingdom of Heaven. If I eat enough and sleep well, I will be
indebted to all Unification Church members in the world. Such a life
What's going to happen if you live for yourself? You will lose the
world, nation and tribe. Can the people who live for themselves have a
family? No, they cannot have a public family. They will completely
perish because they won't have the nation and tribe. Where is the
place for that multitude to go? It is hell. There are many Unification
Church members who will go to hell. That's why you shouldn't live for
yourself. You should pray about this matter. It is not time for you to
live for your individual self, but to live for the whole.
When you lead a thrifty life even though you have a lot to eat, and
work hard for the world even though you can survive comfortably
without working, God will feel sympathy and love for you.
For example, let's say a wife suffers greatly for her husband. When
they finally achieve the purpose of the suffering and the husband
occupies a glorious position, he will want to give credit to his wife
for the achievement.
When a desirable purpose is accomplished by a family through the
cooperation of all the family members, the father will want to praise
his children and give them the credit, and he will want to stay in
that position eternally. Likewise, when there are sons and daughters
centering upon God's will, God wants to praise them, give them the
credit and stay with them eternally.
Some of you may desire to ask me to help pay your children's school
tuition, but Father is thinking of the third-world countries where
people are dying of starvation. That's why I prefer not to wear
neckties, or long underwear in winter. The people who are determined
to liberate their brothers and sisters, and are willing to be the next
to die in order to do so, cannot die even if they want to.
In the Old Testament age, materials were offered, and in the New
Testament age, the son was sacrificed. In the Completed Testament age,
parents go the way of sacrifice.
Your responsibility is so heavy. You were chosen earlier than others
and received Father's love and education. If you cannot fulfill your
responsibility, you'll be accused throughout history. In order not to
be accused by your descendants, you'd better fulfill your given
responsibility. Don't reject suffering; go forward to establish the
tradition by fulfilling your responsibility. You should be the
ancestors whom your descendants will praise throughout history, with
their heads down in view of your heavenly results.
When the parents make serious effort not to be separated from the
heavenly way, the children will never be disobedient.
5. LIFE OF FAITH OF BLESSED FAMILIES
How many blessed families come earlier than service time and help
prepare on Sundays? When the sermon is about to start, after singing
all the holy songs, they enter church. How can we call such people
followers of God's will? No matter how well they make excuses, they
are living a private life, not a public life. We expect no content
from such people. You have to make a new resolution for "thorough
public life" and "exemplary private life" through this meeting.
Therefore, all the blessed families should come to service earlier
than the starting time and make a grace-filled atmosphere for the many
types of people who will attend the service. That makes the heartistic
foundation for the Regional Leader or minister who will give the
sermon, and the speaker will be stimulated by the attitude of the
members yearning to listen. The number of such active members
determines the development of the church.
And it is so precious to keep the public anniversaries or Holy Days of
the church. If you don't consider them as your very life, you will
flunk the Blessing.
You shouldn't expect your children to grow well when you don't even
keep morning Pledge Service and Sunday Service. Therefore, you should
establish the four position foundation centering upon Father. In order
to set up descendants, parents should do well.
Let's stand in the straight line with God even at Pledge Service. That
moment is truly serious. You should repent if you are late even one
second. Prepare holy candies and give them to the children.
Sunday is the day to give the members what you planned and what you
saved during the week. It is the day to give something joyful to the
members. And on Sundays, you are to share specially prepared food with
other families and praise your spouse.
Blessed families should educate their children how to offer the
Sabbath day to God by showing them an exemplary life: for example,
preparing for Sunday Service from the break of day. But in reality
they do whatever they want to do. They don't pray, don't make special
offerings, don't study Principle and don't witness in the name of a
life of living faith. If the Sunday Service starts at 10:30, they
should leave for the church at 9:30 or 10:00. Instead of doing so,
they leave home late and attend service from the middle. Such a family
will be accused. No matter how much they educate their children, it
won't influence them at all.
Parents should be a good example. They should show their children the
practical life of faith -- prayer life and family service -- on a more
serious level than conventional church members. And they should make
children realize the importance of Pledge time. Holding Pledge Service
is not enough; they should educate their children centering upon God's
At 5 a.m. on the first day of the month, each blessed family is
supposed to bow and pledge toward the Headquarters with a joyful
You are to bow and pledge at 5 a.m. on Sundays; at that time you are
to report all the contents of your life during the week. Sundays
should be the joyful day that you long to have come quickly.
The quickest way to set up the family tradition is to do it when
Father is alive. Originally you are supposed to shower every morning,
bow and pledge to Father. Without setting up such a tradition, your
descendants will perish.
One old blessed man died and his son seemed to feel sorry. The son
realized that he never bought even a bowl of noodles for his father
when he was alive. The son realized this immediately upon the father's
death. It is fallen man's habit to have great regret after someone's
Father felt so much emotion after attending the funeral. How will you
do when Father goes to spirit world ?
When looking in the mirror, you should ask, "How much do these eyes
shed tears of longing to see Parents? How much does this mouth shout
for Parents' liberation and the accomplishment of the Will? How much
do these hands shed blood working hard for Parents' nation? Have I
worked on the foundation which Parents desire until my body
collapsed?" When you can repent, realizing that it creates resentment
not to have done so, and then determine to look for such a way, you
are happy. Happiness lies in trying to go this way and in making the
heartistic bond with God. Nobody can subjugate such a person. Only the
parents can move, inspire and make such a person happy. And there is
nobody except the son who can make the parents happy. The hope of the
parents doesn't lie in themselves, but in their son.
In farming, it is the morality of heaven and earth to think, "I'll
offer the product to my parents." In love, everything becomes joyful
and harmonized; and without love everything becomes unhappy and a
dreary wilderness. Isn't that true? The problem lies here. You need to
have a heart burning to know anything concerning True Parents and the
church, such that you come earliest whenever the church leaders give
You'll get a perfect score if you can show all of your heart to
Heavenly Father and the True Parents even when you eat, drink, sit,
stand or do any such mundane things. Knowledge or scholarly
achievements don't guarantee you a perfect score. Maybe degrees such
as a Ph.D. or Master's are needed for the fight, but you don't live by
them. Can you justify your life saying to God, "I have a doctorate"?
It is not needed. How can we pull God's love? The only way to move God
is to devote yourself with absolute seriousness. You must think of
True Parents first, whatever you encounter.
When something good happens, a person of filial piety thinks of his
parents first. To think of husband or wife first is a fallen custom.
Without buying something precious for parents, you cannot buy anything
for your wife. Many of the 36 Couples should feel guilty. Before
buying new clothes for your wife, you should buy clothes for your
parents. A wife cannot ask her husband to buy certain clothes that she
likes without buying for the parents first. Before buying himself
clothes, a husband should buy for his parents first and then for his
wife. The same rule applies to eating. You are to prepare a meal first
to eat together with your parents.
The Kingdom of Heaven is not a difficult place; it is a place where we
serve God and True Parents and where we receive and give love. Parents
want children to love each other. If you have the title of a son of
filial piety, but fight with your brothers at the same time, the title
is worthless. That's why parents prefer you to love your brothers.
People who love brothers and sisters more than they love their parents
can eternally live inside the boundary of the Kingdom of Heaven.
People who cannot love their brothers more than they do their parents
are out of the dominion. By knowing this fact, members should be one.
People who are always prepared to welcome brothers and sisters,
waiting for them from morning to night, will be blessed. Since they
know that their parents cannot visit all houses, they wait for the
heavenly brothers and sisters every day with a heart yearning to serve
parents. Long ago there was a similar custom in Korea. Families of the
classical scholar rank kept a special room for visitors. Such a custom
can be seen only in Korea. Thus a heavenly regulation was shown
symbolically in the historical background of the satanic world.
But you may worry whether or not somebody is going to visit you. Do
you want guests to visit your house or not? (Yes.) How would you feel
if Father visited your house everyday for three months? You would be
tired of me. I have so many things to mention. What do you think? Is
Father stifled or not knowing exactly how you feel? You don't know
your status at all. That's why Father should educate you about such a
6. LIFE CENTERING UPON THE TRINITY
The trinity is made with three men or three women in our church. We
create a trinity to make the representative form of Adam's three sons
and three daughters-in-law to serve the Lord.
When these three people cannot become one, there is the possibility
for more destruction. Especially the three men should be united,
spiritually and physically.
The foundation of the trinity shouldn't be limited to the present but
should transcend time and make one subjective form. Otherwise you'll
be ashamed of standing in front of the Lord of the Second Coming. If
the three people in oneness make a principled stepping stone, in other
words if the trinity is absolutely determined not to change, God will
accomplish His will. In order to prepare this foundation, Father
The fall means the disunity of three brothers. That's why the Kingdom
of Heaven cannot be established unless three brothers in unity manage
one household according to the principle of restoration.
If the members of a trinity cannot make mental unity, they cannot go
to the Kingdom of Heaven. The ideology of the Unification Church
starts from here. The three who cannot be united mentally cannot
register in the Kingdom of Heaven and cannot even look around it. And
centering upon the oneness of the three, the minds of twelve people
should be united into one.
You cannot go the way of faith alone. You need a like-minded friend in
faith. More than three people should be one. That's why a trinity is
needed. The subject of human character, God, also wants the triple
standard. God cannot teach human beings directly when they make
mistakes. He cannot teach us vertically. But if three people become
one, when one makes a mistake and the other two don't, He can instruct
the mistaken one about what he did wrong. That's the reason God sent
Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
Grace comes quickly when more than three people pray in the mountains.
After prayer the three should discuss with one another. If they
discuss with others outside the trinity, Satan will invade.
When there's a beautiful unity of the three in a true sense and people
surrounding them become envious of them, God's will automatically
multiplies. The new bud will blossom when there's unity among the
three, even without God's help.
Three people together can do anything, even in the outside world.
Eight members should move together in our church. When a leader,
leader's wife, three men and three women are one in a church, nothing
can destroy it. This is an iron rule. Because everyone has the mission
to prepare this restored form, Father organized trinities.
In order to set up a four position foundation, a form centering upon
the horizontal foundation should be ready: people, church, material
and a family should be one in the social environment. That's why the
trinity is organized. The mission of the trinity is to be a good
example in the family and in the church, and to be responsible for the
economy. The trinity should be completely one. When there's a crack in
the trinity, the ideology of the Kingdom of Heaven is destroyed.
Then what should the trinity do from now on? One representative family
should be selected in each trinity. The selected family is an absolute
heavenly family of which God dreams. It represents Father's family to
the extent that other families should be absolutely obedient to this
family; such a tradition should be established. And the families in a
trinity should sincerely devote themselves in leading the church more
than church leaders. The family also should be more frugal than others
in dealing with material. Thus, our ideology aims toward the
systematic formation of a social system and economic structure.
The time will come to select a representative family. When selecting
one family in a region, a four position foundation should be
established centering upon this family. We are to go forward centering
upon the four position foundation which can enable us to live together
Right there, the Kingdom of Heaven on earth is to take place. That's
the principled world. History developed in order to establish such a
Kingdom of Heaven on earth. It is understandable that communists
considered their party the absolute center, because everything
develops through one center. Communists live or die according to party
You are to fulfill your mission and responsibility centering upon the
same principle in your given area. After receiving the Blessing, you
have to prepare to become a central family in front of your
descendants and heaven and earth.
You are to go forward with the conviction to establish a solid
foundation to take responsibility as normal practice, in front of God,
through your family. If you can do that, you will not deviate from the
living regulation centering upon the Principle.
Father organized trinities. It was not centered upon the families
themselves, but centered upon Father. In fact, it is good to form a
trinity with your spiritual children. Centering upon Father,
internally you form a father son relationship. This is what Father
thought of when making trinities.
Blessed families should live by the organization of their trinity.
When a son is born in one family, a four position foundation is
established. If one of your trinity families doesn't have a son, you
should be able to send your son to this family. But when the family
finally gives birth to a son, you can bring your son back.
If one family in a trinity cannot give birth to a child, the other
families should give a child to the family.
When one husband dies, the trinity should be responsible for the
household of his family. From now on, we are to manage three
households together; we are not to live alone. When the time comes,
three households should be run together.
Consider Father's words as life itself. Be absolutely obedient.
Originally the trinity should live together more than three years. The
trinity should feel the same even if they exchange their babies. If
you feel troubled about this, you will fail. Don't worry if a husband
of one family in the trinity dies. In that case, the remaining two
families should be responsible.
When Satan recognizes the condition that I loved Cain as much as I
loved Abel, then he will go away. When rearing the babies of your
trinity partners, you should be two or three times more devoted than
with your own babies. If the trinity cannot make oneness, how can we
create world unity? Three nations should be one. You have to love the
world more than you love the Lord. Father received persecution from
three nations, three ages and three sovereignties. The trinity is one
brother. Therefore, when the three families become one, they can hold
ceremonies instead of Father. If you neglect the trinity and just
focus on your family's well-being, you will perish. You shouldn't
represent Father just in His name; rather you should represent Father
in His responsibility and heart.
Originally one family of a trinity is to be responsible for three
households, and the remaining two families are to witness.
The Unification Church uses the noun "family member" (Korean: shik
ku). We are all brothers centering upon the trinity. You should repent
that you haven't fulfilled this.
Trinities should live together with deep feeling. The families in a
trinity in turn should take responsibility for the trinity household
one year out of every three. Without establishing the Kingdom of
Heaven of the family, we cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. You are
in the position of the Messiah who can save the whole family.
Even though three couples gave birth to children, they should be able
to rear them as one couple. When you can do so, heartistic unification
is possible. Father's heart, Adam's heart and Jesus' heart should be
one. If the trinity cannot become like that, you will not be able to
stand in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Three families shouldn't fight one another, each centering upon their
own children. If that occurs, all should repent. You should be able to
move twelve directions while living in one place.
Blessed families in a trinity should get in touch with one another at
least once every three to four weeks. You should live centering upon
the four position foundation.
One family in a trinity should be in charge during one season; each
family in turn should be the responsible center to lead three
families' living. In case of building a house, the house should be
able to accommodate three families. The trinity is absolutely
You should be a good example in church and on the economic stage,
centering upon the trinity. You should never be dominated by money.
The nation which is dominated by money perishes. And when a family
deceives the nation in order to fulfill an individual's greed, the
family also will perish.
Women are capricious, aren't they? It is the right time for them to be
really fickle now. Women want to live only with their spouses, right?
Unless we destroy this standard, world unity is impossible. You have
to understand this point.
The reason that a clan cannot live together is because of the women.
The daughter-in-law who doesn't like her parents-in-law will be a
miserable mother-in-law. This creates mutual sadness. To solve this,
everything should be reversed.
The three wives of a trinity should be one, so Father disciplines you
right now to become one. From now on, twelve families should live
together in one house; and then 120 families or 1,200 families should
live in one house. You shouldn't fight at all even though you live in
the same village. When fighting takes place, a tribal conference
should be held to punish the ones who fight. Such a time will come.
Father has disciplined you on a family level. From now on an apartment
will come into being to train you on the family level. I'm talking
about the modern dwelling, the apartment building. We will make a
house which can accommodate more than seven families, so that people
can experience collective life and modern life for several months.
Such disciplining, residential apartments will come about. Do you
All of you should graduate from such a training school. Three
generations are to live together in the apartment. They are to eat and
study together. The eight members of the family are to enter the
Kingdom of Heaven centering upon the parents. Can a family having less
than eight members enter the Kingdom of Heaven?
How many people are there when you add parents and the trinity? (Eight
people.) Without setting up the foundation for these eight family
members to become one, you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. This is
Principle, isn't it? If that's the Principle, we should live according
7. THE COLLECTIVE LIFE OF THE BLESSED FAMILIES
The Unification Church teaches "parents" in the place of God and the
historically unfortunate saints. If you have such parents, God is not
needed and saints are not needed. We don't lack anything when we have
parents. By becoming one with your brothers and sisters after
completely restoring parents, new family members and a new family can
start. Therefore, you should create the trinity.
All of you have spiritual parents. The spiritual parents have three
spiritual children. You cannot stand in the face of God's will if you
cannot be one with them. Do you know the trinity of your spiritual
parents? Did you become one with them? If not, you are a fake.
Because you didn't create such a bond, you should create it centering
upon Father's family. Become one with the people representing the
three brothers in Father's family and make a brotherly bond with
Father's children in the Cain and Abel relationship. Is there anyone
who cannot do that?
You wear warm clothes whenever you feel cold, and you eat whenever you
feel hungry, but have you wondered if Father's children are hungry?
There's a formula course for Father to pass through before he can live
with his children. Just serve for three years, absolutely serve!
You live centering upon yourselves like satanic babies. That's a
serious problem. There are a group of people who think, "We have
nothing to do with God or Father or Regional Leaders; we are now just
suffering." Is there anyone here who thinks like that?
You should apply the Principle to everything. You are to start by
relating things to the principled foundation. To create a loving
relationship with brothers, you need such a foundation. "Family
members" mean "brothers." Jesus hasn't received parental love, a
brother's love or the love of relatives.
Because you have family members, you should make an atmosphere for
brothers to give and receive love and live for one another. You should
become such exemplary members. You should become a man or woman whom
all Unification Church members can worship. Have you become such a
person? All different kinds of people gather in this church, so there
will be ones who sell the name "members." If such people receive the
Blessing, they will sell the name "family." There are a group who are
arrogant due to the Blessing that they received. Father didn't suffer
until now to create families of such low dimension.
The family is the basic unit representing the whole. The mistake of a
family links to the mistake of the whole; so while an individual
mistake can be tolerated, the mistake of a family cannot be tolerated.
The heart to turn individual joy into joy for the whole should
When you establish concern, subjectivity and hope for the whole
instead of for the individual, you will harmonize with the bigger
dimension. The family exists to save the whole; therefore, a family is
like a power-transmission line. You should be able to harmonize with
the whole through the family. So the trinity should live in one house.
It is the time to reorganize the family structure.
Even though you received persecution and were driven out of society
because of the Unification Church, you received better friends and
brothers. In other words, you are given brothers who don't have the
same physical blood lineage through the Blessing.
The relatives in the Unification Church are the blessed families.
Twelve families should create a united form or structure. They should
miss one another and want to communicate.
From now on Father wants to hold family workshops. In entering modem
life, Father wants to buy a plot of land which can accommodate 100
houses and build an apartment house for workshops to train people to
live together. You have to think seriously how your actual life can
unite the internal and external standards which God wants your family
It is Principle that when a blessed family is united like an iron-clad
bastion, it will stand as the central nation which only God can
subjugate, and will begin to move the world anew with its fortune.
The blessed families are to create one vertical ground with a strong
bond of blood and flesh. They should be able to say to each other, "I
cannot exist without you and you cannot exist without me." So the
families with Unificationism try to make God's glorious ground in
complete unity. Each family willingly wants to be the fertilizer for
that field. Such a fertile ground of life is an object of pride.
8. THE WAY FOR THE DESCENDANTS TO RECEIVE BLESSING
What is the Kingdom of Heaven? Our family should be the place where
passing beggars want to sleep, dogs want to enter, birds want to make
their nest, and people even want to have a bowel movement. Such a
place is the Kingdom of Heaven. How are our blessed families? If you
cannot be a good example, at least you shouldn't be the bothersome
ones of your village.
When you make such a family Kingdom, you will flourish and God will be
with you. Why? Because the place where God's love dwells attracts all
living things, and it is the peaceful sabbath nest for all existing
When a miserable person visits your house, how do you ladies respond?
You should feel dutiful to show hospitality by giving him or her outer
clothes and even underclothes if he or she doesn't have clothes. Then
your descendants will wear proper clothes. Your descendants will
flourish because you treated strangers well.
There is a family precept inherited for a long time in Father's
family. It is not to let guests pass my house with hunger. On a cold
winter morning when our grandfather heard a beggar supplicating, "I've
come to beg breakfast," he would give all that was on his breakfast
table to the beggar. And he would start scolding our grandmother,
saying, "Imagine that you are a beggar. How difficult it is to beg
rice in front of a stranger's house on a cold winter day! Even though
rice doesn't cost so much, it must be really hard to beg for it."
Father heard those words several times.
It is hard to maintain life, but it is given by God. We should
understand the beggar's heart to preserve his life. He does not want
to die because he doesn't want to be undutiful to God. If human beings
cannot understand a fellow human being's suffering, who will
When grandfather scolded grandmother for not serving the beggar
quickly enough, she would protested by asking, "Who is more precious,
your wife or a strange beggar?" When thinking of the offspring, a
beggar is more precious.
Our grandfather did so and our father also did so. That was the law of
the Moon family. We had to give rice to a beggar before he spoke more
than three phrases. If mother didn't give rice to the beggar, father
himself would serve the beggar with his own food. Then my mother,
whose character was like a man, would fight with my father.
If a wife doesn't serve guests well, the head of a family, the
husband, is responsible. When a husband doesn't serve well, he'll be
punished, but when a wife doesn't do so, her husband is to correct
her. You shouldn't say to a beggar, "What are you doing with your
young body?" You should say, giving even a little change, "This is
very little, but please receive thousands of blessings from this." If
there's a very miserable man who doesn't eat properly in a village,
you should do whatever work is possible, even all night, to buy him
rice. If you do that, your descendants will stand in the most blessed
place to be praised through thousands of generations. When a poor
person gives birth to a baby and is starving, you should even sell
your cow to help the family. In God's sight, everybody is a brother
and a sister.
The President of the Korean Unification Church should give warm
hospitality to foreign members when they visit Korea. If you pretend
not to know them and sleep with your legs strait, your legs will rot.
Even though you lead a starving life, you should want to share with
villagers when you get even one bowl of rice. Then the villagers will
pray for your blessing. When you starve because of serving others,
somebody will secretly bring a bag of rice to your kitchen. If you
develop such a personality, you'll never perish.
You should live for the sake of heaven because heaven lives for the
sake of your betterment, and you are to serve members as Father serves
you. With respect to this standard, there are many who are like
thieves. If you become the scary person who eats what is heaven's and
robs church members, your descendants will perish for seven
Have you become a person who is indebted to others, or a person to
whom others are indebted? If you've become a person who can make
others indebted to you, you will surely develop yourself, because God
will cooperate with you.
You should establish the four position foundation even at the time of
The problem is: onto whom will you hold when you die? What is the
ideal of creation? What is the purpose of creation? Speaking in the
human centered view, it is to complete the four position foundation.
Is there any rule or principle of death? What are the rules number
one, two and three of death? Who will protect you at the most intimate
distance during the time of your death? Who has the closest bond with
you? Who will cry for you at the time of death? (Your children, spouse
and parents.) Then whose tears will be the greatest in degree? (Your
parent's tears.) Tears are relative. There are vertical and horizontal
tears. Parents' tears flow from the utmost peak.
Upon what will you center when you die? Would you like to die
forgetting love or embracing it? Whose love do you want to embrace at
the moment of death? You should first of all embrace parental love,
and then conjugal love and children's love. The principle of the four
position foundation also applies to death.
Whom do people call first when they die? They call God. To call God at
the most difficult place is the utmost truth for individuals. For
people who truly call God at death, the door of forgiveness will open.
Why is that so? Because the principle of death is like that.
When you die holding on to the principle of death, there will be a way
for you to sacrifice. That's why everybody calls God at their death.
This is the most truthful lesson. It is common that people speak the
truth when they die. I don't know who taught that, but anyway it is a
really good teaching. It is the truth of truths.
According to heavenly law, at death you are to call parents first and
then your husband or wife. After calling your spouse, you are to call
your children. You shouldn't let only your children come, preventing
your spouse from coming at death. In the satanic world children have
had priority over one's spouse. That's because Eve was the key figure
of the fall. But in the restored world parents should come first, then
the spouse and finally the children. That's the ideal.
Therefore, the four position foundation should be ready at death.
People who died without establishing the four position foundation
cannot properly go the way of death. That's why certain spirits come
and go even after death.
After knowing all of this principle, to whom are you going to hold at
death? (God.) Next? (True Parents.) You were born of God and you are
to die through Him so that you can live eternally with Him in the
spirit world. You were born through Him and you are to be concluded
through Him. To live under this principle is the way of loyalty and
filial piety. You are to be evaluated in conclusion as a responsible
human being when you die, who fulfilled the way of loyalty and filial
piety. Life is to be lived this way.
What you have to consider now is what kind of will you are going to
leave to your child at your death. What will you express as your dying
wishes? Can parents ask children to do what they haven't done? Such
parents are the ones who want to take advantage of their children.
Therefore, when you leave a will to your children, you should be able
to say, "I've lived a life with nothing of which to be ashamed, so
please live as I have." Then God will eternally protect your will. Do
you have confidence to leave such a will? This is a serious problem.
The legacy of your family shouldn't be your material assets or the
education you provided your children. It should be something done in
family unity for the sake of the nation and the world.
Be careful that your tomb not be stepped on by your children. If there
were Adam and Eve's tomb, I would be the first one to dig it up.
What will you leave your growing child? The greatest legacy is to be
able to say, I'll have nothing to leave you except a life lived for
the sake of the nation and the world." Things such as wealth or a
doctorate are not important at all. You should leave a will saying
something like, "Live for the world. Even though you were born in
Korea, you are universal. So live for heaven and earth as well as for
the world." This is "cosmos-ism." You have such a wonderful ideology
and you've heard it and realized the significance of it, so you
shouldn't be worthless, small-minded people.
The legacy of your family should be museum pieces for the world. Even
though David S. C. Kim has been the president of the Seminary for a
long time, he shouldn't leave relics for the school but should leave
them for the world.
The world in which you live centering upon yourself is not your
treasure. Your treasure is only what you received in the public