Blessing and Ideal Family
by Reverend Sun Myung Moon
THE EDUCATION OF CHILDREN
1. FAMILY EDUCATION
What is the content of truth? Even though the content of truth is so
nice, we would not trade our parents, our spouse or our children for
it. What is the utmost truth of all truth? It is a parent, a husband
and a wife, and children. Nothing exceeds those. Then what is the core
of truth? It is love. In such a principle, what is the utmost center
of truth? What do you mean by saying that God is the essence of truth,
goodness, love and life? If something is truth, within it must be
included love and life.
The world cannot be formed without a family. If there's something
wrong with the family, the nation will perish. Therefore, family
education determines the future destiny of the entire nation. When
there are many families living by the public law, the nation will
flourish; when there are many families living with a private standard,
the nation will perish.
Children should be one, centering upon parents. The miserable accident
of Cain and Abel shouldn't be repeated. Brothers and sisters should be
one by being dutiful children to their parents. You should be the good
example and educate your children with this standard. Until now,
parents have depended upon schools for their children's education, but
from now on, parents should be the first to show the good example so
that children will form new families following the tradition of their
You should lead an exemplary public life, to show your children the
tradition and to educate them to inherit it. Human beings are
originally to be educated by their parents. They are not to receive
education just from the school. Especially the inheritance of the
tradition cannot be taught in school. Children should offer all the
education that they receive in school to their parents.
What is the growth period? It is the period in which we discipline
ourselves to be the ones who can receive perfect love. Then what
should we do during this period? For the sake of God's pleasure, we
should go when God goes and we should come when God comes. Originally,
the only human beings were Adam and Eve, so their children learned
from them automatically. Formal education was not supposed to be
necessary. Children are to follow and to know what their parents do
and know. They are to do what their parents like. If they dream of
things and behave in ways outside of what their parents do, they will
be subjugated under the fallen dominion. That is why God had to say,
"Don't eat the fruit."
Children find the value of all existence through their parents. Whom
do the children resemble when they grow up in a family? They resemble
their parents. They are to follow their parents.
Parental love shouldn't be selfish. If parents prevent their son from
going the rough way, he will become an incapable man without willpower
or independent spirit in the future. To make an incompetent son is not
the goal of parental love. Parents should deeply understand their son
and support and encourage him in his chosen path.
It is definitely easy for parents to let their children sleep whenever
they want and eat whatever they want. But true parents would want to
show the better way of living for their children.
Children don't complain when their parents push them to study because
they know it is for their sake. The heart of true parents is to pray
for their children all night, shedding tears.
Parents should make their children regard them as their most intimate
friends by reading fairy tales, telling them interesting stories of
their life of faith, and discussing the future of the family in a
constructive way. Parents are to direct their children's faith.
Parents should be able to respect their children; they are not to
scold their children in a humiliating manner.
It is difficult to correct the bad habits of human beings. As a Korean
proverb says, the habit formed when one is three continues until one
is 80. Therefore, we are to form sound habits, especially during
adolescence. In order to let children develop the right habits, a
thorough education is absolutely necessary in the early period of
life. The problem is how to correct the bad habits of the older
generation. By using saws, knives and axes, we can recreate all shapes
and varieties of wood into the standard sizes used for construction.
Likewise, by the standard of the order of love, the twisted human
habits can be corrected. A brick by itself is just a brick, but it can
create a house or a building. Likewise, when we correct our bad habits
and unite our habits with the way of God's original love, power is
produced and we can enter the orbit of God's eternal love. Therefore,
we are to correct our bad habits in our lifetime and go the right way
in the life of faith.
In order to set firmly your children's faith, you should connect them
strongly to the church before they reach twenty. If you don't let them
set up their faith between middle school and the second year of high
school, they will slide into the fallen society. This is based upon
statistics from our church. It is a very serious problem.
Blessed children are to follow their parents absolutely until they are
twenty. Therefore, if parents make mistakes, their children will do
When a husband makes mistakes, his wife should hit him, and when a
wife makes mistakes, her husband should hit her. They are to follow
the example of God. By being hit, we gain a good resource to educate
descendants. When our life improves due to being hit with a stick, the
stick will be the textbook. The people who leave such a textbook to
educate their descendants are outstanding beings.
The mistakes of parents are bequeathed to the children.
We are to prepare the family law: the standard of babies' education
and the regulation of the family. Parents will have nothing to say
when they are accused under the law.
Because mothers in the Unification Church know the heavenly law, they
should give solid family education to their daughters.
Don't leave your children in the care of others. Perhaps a mother
feels so weak that she has to give another person charge of her child,
and that person may love her child as if it were her first son. Then
this mother will have to support that person. You should know that
rearing babies is for the sake of the nation and the world.
Father's babies should be raised by the members who have set up enough
2. TRUE EDUCATION OF CHILDREN
In order to educate children, parents first of all should be loyal to
the providence. They should stay in the position to be respected by
their children so that their children will be completely obedient to
them. Otherwise, the children will not want to follow them.
If parents neglect directions from headquarters and yet order their
children to live according to Principle, their children will laugh at
Everything parents do should encourage their children to go the right
way of the Unification Church. Unless the parents are an example of
living the principled life, they cannot educate their children to
I speak to you only what I first have practiced and established as a
victorious foundation. If you cannot believe it, pray to God. You will
see clearly if I am lying.
You should pray to God, "Please let my children follow what I do."
First you establish the standard of behavior, then your children can
stand in the same position. If you stand on that foundation, God will
automatically lead your children in the same direction. Spirit world
will accuse you of irresponsibility if you do not set the right
direction for your children.
You should be able to educate your children to become like you.
I told Hyo Jin and In Jin, "Because your father and mother work for
the nation and God's will, we cannot meet you often. So you should do
the same as Father and Mother do." It is really sad for parents not to
meet their children very often. Children always want to be with their
Children should be filled with the thought that their parents work for
God's providence in spite of all the suffering. Parents should be a
good example so that the children are clear that their parents live
for the sake of the whole, not for the sake of their own well-being.
Children learn their parents' heart.
What should the parents do? They should teach children to love each
other as their parents love each other and to love the nation as their
parents love the nation. If you can teach that, no other education is
You should be able to counsel your children, saying, "You should be
happy to see your parents living for God's will. Your parents are
different from other parents. Other parents easily separate and
divorce when they encounter a little difficulty, but your parents
endure and love each other in the midst of difficulty. You should be
grateful to God and always have hope, following the way of your
parents. God's blessing will come down where you become one with your
parents and where you are loyal to God's providence." Then your
children will follow your example and inherit your tradition. Your
offspring will flourish eternally if you practice this truth.
When teaching your children what to do, you should give them
specifics, with the details of their course, instead of vaguely
telling them to be great people.
The father is to be responsible as a father, the older brother is to
be responsible as an older brother, and the older sister is to be
responsible as an older sister. That is, you should distinguish the
way for a true man and a true woman to go following the heavenly law,
so that you may qualify as heavenly subjects.
The word "father" is a dreadful word. Without "truth" you cannot feed
your children. You should feed your children with your achievement of
blood and something good. When they eat something wrong, their parents
should guide them into the right way, praying for their blessing in
tears. Parents are not to be indebted to their children.
Heaven and earth should know the money that I use.
Even though parents cannot give children material benefit due to
difficult living conditions, they should serve children with loving
heart from their bone marrow. Then the children come to be indebted to
their parents. That's why most sons of filial piety come from poor
families. When the children endeavor hard not to be indebted to their
parents, the parents will feel joy.
You are to follow heavenly law, embracing your children. You should
never show tears to your children, even though your living condition
becomes terribly difficult.
Father educated Mother not to show tears to the children. When rearing
children, parents encounter many periods of suffering. Even though the
tears of agony are about to burst, parents become joyful when their
children try to comfort them in tears. If you cannot do that, you are
unqualified to educate your children.
Your children should consider you greater than any king or queen in
the world, and you should show your children how intimate you are with
each other. Blessed families should set up such a tradition. You
should implant into your children's bone marrow the tradition that
they revere you more than anyone else in the world.
Worldly parents continuously fight in front of their children even
though the children ask them to stop. You are supposed to be a good
example of harmony to your children so that when they see careless
secular-world parents, they feel that they have the world's greatest
parents. You are to set up the heavenly family law by means of action,
so that your children respect you from the bottom of their hearts. If
you do this, your children will determine to follow in your footsteps.
How can we set up such a tradition? We can set up the tradition
through Unification Thought. After knowing this, we should set up the
family morality of being absolutely obedient to the standard of
Unification Thought. When children experience this, they are naturally
3. TRUE EDUCATION OF PATRIOTISM
You should teach your children to be loyal subjects in front of God's
will, for the sake of the heavenly nation. If your children cry for
Korea, you should teach them that we don't have our nation yet and
Korea is not our true nation. You should teach this while holding
their hands, in tears, telling them that there's another nation that
we must attend. You should be able to feel God's concern as closely as
the breath of your babies in your bosom. In this tearful position, you
are to educate your children. Then the width of your education will
When educating children, parents shouldn't just teach them to love
their parents. Parents should explain to their children, "I'm the
loyal subject who loves this nation, a patriot. I'm not the mother of
a family first, but a patriotic mother, and a loyal father." In order
to teach filial piety, parents should behave as children of filial
piety themselves, in front of their children. Otherwise they will fall
down like the leaves in the autumn.
A father should teach his son to be as dutiful as he is and to be as
loyal as he is in spite of being driven into the comer by the
struggles of human history. My goal in life is to bequeath this
tradition to you.
I tell you: love thirty million people with the parental love that
you've received. Then the foundation of hope to subjugate the nation
will be extended. Isn't that a principled way of instructing people?
You are not to be a mere compatriot of thirty million people; you are
to be the parent of thirty million people. Be the sons and daughters
who can be the parents of thirty million people.
When parents educate their children to love and sacrifice for the
nation to the degree that they sacrifice for their children, the
children will endeavor to become the patriots that their parents
desire them to be. Whenever such children reflect on their parents,
they will think of the thirty million people of the nation. They will
study to serve their nation and, when their nation suffers misery,
they will feel the same agony. But standing in such a position doesn't
make them patriots. They should have a foundation substantially
established in such a position. That foundation becomes the point
which the people will adore eternally. Otherwise, life just passes by.
It is a serious matter to consider.
A teacher who is seriously devoted to bequeath the right thought to
his or her disciples in a school will advise them while holding their
hands and shedding tears, with the deep care for the nation's destiny,
so that they will be obedient to the nation, not to the teacher. The
disciples who receive such teaching will accomplish the unfulfilled
will of their teacher. When teachers are totally devoted to their
disciples, to the point of offering their lives, and when parents are
sincerely devoted to their children, regarding the nation and the
world as more precious than themselves, the disciples and the children
will be the pillars of the nation.
Have you professors lived for the sake of others? Teachers should have
heart springing out of their bone marrow and should shed blood and
tears for their disciples. They cannot help but shed tears when
standing in front of the multitude who lost d e sense of looking for
the original world. Myriad cells are trembling. Have you given a
lecture shedding tears from a guilty conscience for the sake of the
students and their descendants? Reverend Moon has walked the path of
blood and tears for humankind. People thought of me as a notorious
ringleader and they expected me to perish, but now those same people
are asking me to be their leader anytime and open the doors of the
east, west, south and north. They say that they don't need anything
except Father. In such a place, the Kingdom of Heaven is to be
restored. Such a philosophy hasn't existed until now.
What can we do to love the nation? Nobody educates regarding this
matter. People think they love the nation by paying taxes. With this
attitude, how can we learn to love the nation? Love for the nation
should start from the family. Parents should teach their children to
love the nation as they love their parents and their brothers and
sisters. Then no other education is necessary. The children come to
realize that, because they and their parents live in such a way, all
American families and the president are to live in such a manner if
they have a patriotic heart. Such a tradition should remain eternally,
even though the U.S. State Department and Pentagon disappear.
By their unity centering upon the president through this tradition,
the people can do everything. That is why we should educate our
children to be loyal, risking their lives when the nation faces
Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and the Israelites tried to restore what
Adam failed to establish, but they failed. How can we restore their
mistakes? Mothers shouldn't live for their own households. The reason
to eat and to rear children is for the future of the nation.
Who is the patriot of a nation? It is not the person who eats well and
commands. The people who keep the honor of the nation are the
patriots. Such people would want to hide their miserable living
condition, never eating their poor meal in front of foreigners, in
order to maintain the nation's honor. We shouldn't behave lightly,
jealous of one another, forgetting the honor of the nation. People who
endeavor to present their nation in a more beautiful and valuable
manner are patriots. The descendants of such people will also be
The feeling of joy at giving birth to a son is not the end. Parents
should be concerned about how to rear him as a man of value. Parents
who love their son with such a concern are the ones who know the
heavenly law. If parents are just happy to give birth to a son without
such concern, the starting point for the son's life is wrong. Parents
should concern themselves with rearing him to be a person who is
useful to the nation. If parents begin his upbringing based upon this
concern, they will set the condition to begin the son's life for the
sake of nation. This is very important matter.
Teach your children, "Become the people who can pray for the nation
and the world instead of praying for your own children." The reason
that God blessed you by giving you children is not only for your will
but for God's will. When people give birth to a child through making
special conditions for heaven, God will send the child as the savior
of the nation.Therefore, if such parents don'- educate their child to
serve the nation, God will take the child away.
People cannot become patriots in one night. They receive education
from their ancestors. They should experience the piercing bond of
education to the bone marrow from their parents, and they should
determine the purpose of their lives centering upon this education.
Patriots themselves cannot be the cause or motive of their being
patriotic. They definitely received an education from their ancestors,
or certain stimulating inspiration from the depth of their conscience,
which became the motivation of their being patriotic. When their whole
life is motivated to fulfill the purpose of the initial inspiration,
they finally appear as patriots.
4. EDUCATION TO LIVE FOR THE WORLD
Religion is the summit teaching. God's summit teaching is to educate
and to love humankind. There's nothing other than that. Therefore,
true parents are to teach their children something with which the
whole world and God are happy.
It is not a problem to sacrifice the family for the sake of the world
and God. Father went to North Korea abandoning his son. First of all,
love the world and God! God's will is to save the world. The family
centering upon God's will shouldn't exist for itself. The family is to
live for the sake of the world. This is our way of tradition. The fact
that we have to be taught to love God is sad. It is because of the
fall. It is mortifying that we have to educate our children to believe
in God and to protect the church. Originally, we do not have to be
taught such facts. God would always dwell in our hearts and directly
lead us. Your own parents don't have to be introduced to you; likewise
originally there was no need to introduce God.
Morality teaches us parental love, conjugal love and children's love.
Have you thought about for whom you have to love your parents? For
whom do you have to love your spouse and your children?
Human beings lost the main character who is responsible for love. God
talks about infinite love. He says that the thing which will remain
until the final moment is love. That love is the love of God. You
should know the purpose of love. Because of whom do you love? We love
because of God. We must love for the sake of God. If you love for
yourself, it is no secret where you will be assigned to go after
When feeding your baby milk, you feel the baby is very cute. Because
of whom do you feel this cuteness? You should cherish your baby as the
substitute for heaven and earth. You are to love your child for the
sake of the world and God. The fortune of heavenly law is moving to
embrace the cosmos, transcending the world, according to God's love.
If you love your children, who are born of such great fortune, just
for the sake of your own well- being, you will not be accepted at all.
When suckling babies, mothers should have the piercing heart to
embrace them as representing heaven and earth.
Do you want to receive the Blessing? Do you want eternal life? In
order to receive the Blessing and eternal life, you should be a public
person. Don't love your children as yours when you educate them. You
should love them as sacrificial children for the whole of humankind.
When feeding babies milk, mothers are to feel as if they are the
representative mothers of all humankind and they are to consider their
babies as representing humankind. Parents shouldn't just cherish their
own children, but they are to treat others' children as theirs. The
babies fed and raised by such public-hearted mothers will be great
figures. Among the descendants of such mothers will be born the great
figure who has the ability to liberate the world. This is the formula.
When educating children, parents have to think how to rear their
children. Who can successfully accomplish the mission for God's
providence? They should think the same way when they nurse their
All parents teach their children to become great figures for the
nation. But now is the time when we are approaching the world level.
Now is the time to teach children to be worldwide figures. Do you
educate accordingly? You are supposed to. Live together with the
world! Because Father knows how you feel, I have to tell you this
Father didn't perish even in the time of disruption, so I will educate
you to live together with the world. This is important. What has
history been seeking? It has sought the time the world could live
together. You are also to go, fight, endeavor, teach and die centering
upon that time. Even if you finally die in that effort, you will be
For what does goodness move? It doesn't move for myself. We are to eat
for the sake of the cosmos, not just for ourselves. To get married is
also for the will. Our goal should be the world. All our experiences
also should be centered on the world. Such people don't look
interesting, but they are very interesting people. When overcoming the
70 or 80 years of life on earth, we are to see eternity; but most
human beings are not aware of that. If we know how to enter the
eternal world, we will possess eternity.
Many people are running after money. For what do they earn money? They
answer that they make money for their children. Then what will their
children do? They are to live for the nation and the world, not just
for their own survival. Otherwise their tribe will perish or will be
subsumed by other tribes.
All of us are surrounded by an evil environment. We don't need an
education in order to go the evil way. Anybody can go that way without
receiving any education in that field. History started with an evil
action, so we automatically go the evil way. That's why the purpose of
education is to make people discern the good from evil by means of
conscience centering upon morality.
Upon what is an education centered? Even though people have been
educated centering upon the good -- the conscience -- how many people
have led a life which matched the standard of their education? Anybody
can get a high grade in doing evil without education.
The conscience always tells us to be good in an evil environment. The
mind always stimulates and advises us to be good. But have you
listened to what your mind tells you? When we think of such matter, we
lament all the time -- today, tomorrow, during the heyday of youth,
the time of middle age, the time of old age. Our life ends with lament
over not having become what our conscience desired. In other words, it
finishes in evil. That is the inevitable conclusion. Because human
beings were born from evil, they struggle in evil and pass away in
evil. That has been the typical life course of human beings.
What is the relationship between you and the providence? You were born
for the purpose of the whole. You were born in the middle of the
providential history; that is, you were born as a public being. You
should be grateful to your parents that you were born in the midst of
the providence. Therefore, you are to live for your descendants, the
world and the universe. Without knowing, your parents gave birth to
and reared the children who represent the whole universe. Likewise you
are to give birth to and rear your children according to the public
way of thinking.
Great mothers teach their babies to endure any kind of difficulties in
order to be righteous figures who can move the world. That's because
they realize that righteousness never perishes.
Father's mother was not public. She didn't want her son to suffer. She
didn't care about her son's will and ideals; she rather worried about
her son's physical torture. When Father was caught by the North Korean
communists and was imprisoned in their jail, she came to see Father
several times; her only concern was the physical pain that Father was
Father's mother wanted him to abandon the public way of life and to
live with his physical parents comfortably. That's why Father had to
abandon his physical parents. When I arrived in Pyongyand (from Hung
Nam prison) and spent 40 days, I didn't visit my home even though it
was quite close to Pyongyang. If I had visited my home on my way as a
refugee, my physical family could have been liberated. But because
they would have obstructed Father's accomplishment of God's will, I
didn't meet them at that time.
My parents and the brothers and sisters who remained in the hometown
must have been killed by the communists. The communists never tolerate
the family members of a so-called reactionary, but immediately
massacre them. During the "1.4 Retreat," Father took refuge with the
church members from Pyongyang and a disciple from Hung Nam prison,
leaving his physical family in their hometown.
Father can abandon his physical family when they are against Father's
public mission; but even though the Korean government opposed Father
and sent me to the prison, Father cannot abandon the nation. This
nation and the people persecute and oppose Father because they don't
know Father's will and ideal. Therefore, even though they persecute
me, I have to love them and teach them.
God's will is not centered upon the physical blood lineage, and it is
not for us to love our own family. If we live for ourselves, we cannot
save the world. In order to save the present world, we have to offer
our loving children as the sacrifice. This is God's providence.
The people who can offer their children to God for the future world
can draw the victorious foundation of the future into the present
time. Abraham offered his son for the future world. He loved his son
more than anything in the present or in the future, but because his
love for humankind was greater than his love for his son, he could
offer his son to God.
God dwells in such a heart. By this, entrance into the Kingdom of
Heaven is determined. What sort of person can go to the Kingdom of
Heaven? Selfish people cannot go there. Only people who sacrifice them
selves, abandoning all their personal belongings, can go to the
Kingdom of Heaven.
Then who can completely occupy God's love? They are the subjective
individuals who can sacrifice their children as well as their bodies
to save and love humankind.
In the providence of restoration, God never hit His enemies. He has
been leading the providence by hitting the most beloved figures, who
were the closest to Him. God has developed the providence in this way.
This development finally aims for the Kingdom of Heaven.
The Unification Church talks about "cosmos-ism." Then what is "cosmos-
ism"? It is to live together with heaven and earth. You may respond,
"It sounds good but it cannot be actualized." It sounds like a dream,
The Unification Church pursues a world one step higher than the
conventional churches. The conventional churches are linear whereas
the Unification Church is spherical. Then which is greater? The
Unification concept is greater. "Cosmos-ism" is greater. The
Unification Church claims to live together with the cosmos. Therefore,
the Unification Church has to complete the mission of three ages. We
are to liberate the spirits in the spirit world, the living people in
this sinful world and the descendants to come. The Unification Church
came, holding the authority to liberate the three ages.
For what are you responsible? You are responsible for the spirit
world, the present world, and the descendants. This is the way of
restoration and of destiny that Unificationists must shoulder.
5. FAITH AND STUDY
To lead a religious life is to drink the milk of life as a baby sucks
the mother's milk. When a baby is hungry, it cries for milk; likewise,
when your heart is thirsty, you should visit the church and listen to
the words of life.
The mother who truly loves her baby doesn't only nurse the baby, but
she disciplines the baby and teaches it to do what it doesn't like to
do. Parental heart is to train the child to be strong enough not to
fall. Likewise human beings need to be disciplined to restore what
they lost in the beginning of history God and the universe. If
religion had taught human beings to go over the fence of evil,
resurrection would have happened.
If God truly loves human beings and leads all the religions, and if He
really wants human beings to be resurrected through the religions,
persecution and opposition are inevitable; they are the discipline.
Therefore, unless you gain victory in the midst of the severe
persecution from the individual, family, nation and world, you cannot
The education of faith is more important than secular education.
Father's thought is centered upon the will but your thought is
individualistic. Originality develops when you believe and act.
The schools of the society don't teach "marriage" even though it is a
very significant matter. A man doesn't know of a woman and a woman
doesn't know of a man; but today's education doesn't give much weight
to the problem. We lack education concerning problems which arise
after getting married. How to create a happy married life and how to
educate children are not being taken care of. The problem of science
and mathematics gets more attention and density of focus. This is one
of the malformed phenomena.
In order for your present being to develop into a future being, you
shouldn't be habitualized. All the blessed families from the 36
Couples to the 6,000 Couples became secularized. Because they became
habitualized into the secular customs, problems occur. All the parents
think, "We should let our children go to the good universities.
Studying leads to success. In order to send them to school, we should
make money and they will finally be successful." Father doesn't think
so. To know Principle thoroughly is more important than to study. In
order to be successful, you should know Principle clearly. The
standard of success depends on how much you love your nation and God.
God didn't create human beings so that they could collect all
knowledge. To understand the ideal of creation is not to gain
knowledge. In other words, understanding the ideal of creation is not
determined by the amount of knowledge that you have collected in your
The ideal of creation is not established by knowledge, power or money.
It is established only by love. Parents who teach that the only
measure of success is knowledge or studying are making a serious
Some of you may be boastful because you went to a first-rank
university and make a lot of money. That is stupid. The knowledge that
you learn in school is important, but more important is love. You can
gain knowledge in several days or years, but you cannot have love
overnight. Love is absolute and eternal, so you cannot master it even
in your whole lifetime. You cannot get the graduation certificate of
love, even though you study 30 or 40 years. You can become professor
or receive a doctorate after studying a field of secular knowledge for
a certain period, but you cannot be a professor or gain a doctorate in
love even if you study for 1,000 years, because the field of love is
limitless and eternal.
Love never produces the feeling of repugnance or disgust. It produces
the feeling of the utmost joy and gratitude.
Our mind can grow infinitely by heart but it cannot grow infinitely by
knowledge. The heart of love embraces the universe and still there's
more space remaining, so once you cultivate the great original site of
love, even God wants to take a nap there. We cannot comprehend God by
knowledge, so we should realize the greatness of the heart of the
When you study for yourself, you will quickly feel sleepy; but when
you think the survival of thirty million people depends on the one
page or one sentence that you are dealing with, you will never get
tired. Study with seriousness so intense that you feel that the
retention of one vocabulary word will save the thirty million people
and the loss of one word will doom the same number of people. Don't
say that your memory is lacking! You never forget what happened in an
extremely serious moment, do you? Study at the risk of your life. You
can feel the pulse of your heart when you are serious. In such serious
moments, you even forget things that you were determined to do.
Because your mind is scattered, you cannot remember. If you hit on a
brilliant way to survive when on the verge of death, will you remember
it or not? When you study, invest your life in page after page. Once I
started seriously questioning a certain passage in the Bible, I would
endeavor even for three years to solve the mystery of it. Until I
shouted, "Eureka!" I would push myself to penetrate the root of the
In order to be a great person, you should make all the excellent
teachings of the prominent teachers your possession. Otherwise, you
cannot be a great personage. Being a Ph.D. holder is not enough; you
are to absorb all the systems of knowledge of the world's prominent
scholars and digest them as a factor of your life by comprehending the
overall value of them. Then finally you are to appear as the new
figure of knowledge by adding your originality to the existing system.
That is the way to be the world-class scholar and the world-class
philosopher. The same method applies if you want to pioneer
In order to develop and accomplish a certain purpose, you need
stimulation. In order to accomplish the complete purpose, complete
determination is needed, and you must pass through a time period. In
order to complete the time period, a power of propulsion is needed.
The driving force is produced by periodic stimulation. Stimulation is
necessary for development.
The blessed families, especially the elder blessed families centering
upon the 36 Couples, seem to ask Father for help with their children's
schooling. I doubt there's anything wrong with them, and of course
there are many reasons for what they ask. But when parents get deeply
involved with their children's schooling, they will encounter
obstacles in going the way of God's will. Parents are supposed to give
a general direction to the children and then let them solve the
detailed problems by themselves. Father was a self supporting student.
Tigers let their cubs experience severe trials and harsh discipline in
order to rear them to be the kings of the mountain by developing their
wild nature. Iron gets stronger by heating. This is an important
lesson in educating children.
To live is to compete. We cannot develop without competition. The lack
of competition makes us miserable. In order to win in a competition,
we need capability. To be competent, we need a preparatory period to
establish a foundation. Jesus came after the preparation period of the
Old Testament era. The returning Lord comes after the preparation
period of the New Testament era.
To prepare is to study as a student. Especially adolescents should
prepare, while carrying big dreams. You are the ones who will be
responsible for the Unification Church, so you need to be prepared
most of all. By preparing ideologically, you can conquer the mental
world. Then you are to act utilizing your prepared capabilities. In
other words, you should win the victory in the competition. It is the
Principle that the weak ones are absorbed by the strong ones. Day and
night you should never cease your endeavors to actualize your ideal
with confidence. The purpose of this workshop is for preparation.
Between 1974 and 1976, while Father faced the most severe opposition
in the United States, I established the theological seminary and
prepared for the unity of American churches by rallying theologians.
That's why the religious coalition is possible now. Father prepared
extensively in the fields of economy, culture and media as well. Among
these, economic independence is the most important preparation. A
leader should have the power of persuasion as well. Father has gone
the way of preparation throughout his whole lifetime. From age 27, my
life was one of struggle for the providence, and from age 40, I have
been actualizing the ideal of the providence.
Thus far Father hasn't allowed the second generation to enter graduate
school because they had to love God, the nation and their tribes and
Love is the criterion by which our international activities are
measured with respect to God's will. Corinthians Chapter 13 also says
that among faith, hope and love, love is the greatest.
Where do you think you can utilize the knowledge that you've gained?
How much can you utilize for the providence the knowledge that you've
gained through the study of law and economics at a university? They
are not really useful for going through God's will. When Japan lost
their national strength and economic power through the Second World
War, what happened? Their knowledge of economics was not useful at all
when the nation was devastated.
There's something that we need in order to proceed in the providence.
Those who study theology, squeezing heir heads there is a problem in
your way of thinking. Your way of thinking is extremely wrong. Do you
think Father will follow the economic theories that you've learned in
the school? Or do you think I will refer to the politics that you've
studied? Father doesn't . even want to smell such things.
Entering graduate school is presently forbidden. You are not to go to
graduate school unless Father's children do so. It is not because
Father's children cannot go there, but it is a heavenly law.
When a bud sprouts, the branches and the leaves are to come out. When
a bud stretches high, the tree can grow normally. If a tree has more
side branches than buds, it becomes a useless shrub. That is natural
You should be the sons and daughters who can inherit the tradition
first. After Father's children enter the university or graduate
school, you may follow them. You have to encourage Hyo Jin Nim to
study quickly. Now Hyo Jin cannot straighten out his trembling mind
because the Unification Church and its members didn't fulfill their
Your parents have been tied down to your education, praying for only
your well-being. What about Father? Have I been bound to the education
of my own children? Father has been investing all of his power in you,
in humankind and in God. So there has been no time for me to be
concerned with their education. But your parents after Blessing
concentrated on your family and your education; they have committed a
terrible sin in front of Father and God. That's why you are
collectively responsible for it.
You must have a special concern for other true brothers and true
sisters as well, and you must be cooperative with them. That is the
way of principle.
All religions, especially Buddhism and Catholicism, until now have
exalted the commandment not to marry. It is not that they don't desire
marriage. The providential revelation not to get married was sent.
Likewise, it is not that Father doesn't want to send you to school;
the providence of this age is not yet for you to go to school.
When Father mentions father and son, as in "father-son relationship"
he means the original father and the original son (daughter). Without
the original father and the original son, the nation cannot be
established. Humankind seeks a peaceful world. Such a world cannot be
established through the culture for which the present advanced nations
are striving. It is to be established through the True Parents. Even
though the True Parents clothe themselves in dirty rags or emerge
completely exhausted from a bottomless hollow, human beings are to
learn God's heart centering upon them.
The second generation of the blessed families should inherit the
proper education and the heartistic tradition to qualify as heavenly
subjects. Therefore, Father is preparing the educational system for
the second generation. You should establish schools and curricula for
all ages from kindergarten to university. The second generation of
foreign countries also should come to Korea to receive the same
Centering upon the second generation, a new chapter of Unification
culture will open. It is to be structured according to the heartistic
tradition of the True Parents in form and content, and it also
includes education for acquiring knowledge and technique. Without your
realizing, the way of worldwide restoration through indemnity has
opened, and all the necessary standards are established.
You should discover the root of true love. The family which can make
the bud of that root sprout on earth is the family which will control
the world. When love blossoms from that family, the culture of the
human ancestors will emerge. The language that family uses will be the
international language. The other languages used now will be useless.
As long as you are to be a child, you might as well be born of one
parent in a loving society and learn your parent's language. Then you
are to go through the nation to the new world. From there the culture
centering upon love will develop. It will be the universal culture,
and the other cultures will go through that culture. That culture will
represent the world.
6. LOVE IS NOT LEARNED BY EDUCATION
Do parents have to go to school in order to learn how to love their
children? People know love without learning it. Man and woman didn't
learn how to make a baby. People don't study how the meeting of two
strangers turns into the creation of a husband and a wife, much less
how to create a family out of such a bond. Love is not taught nor is
to be learned through school. It is not a subject for the experimental
method in order to prove how it works. There have been no schools to
teach love and there will be no schools to teach it in the future.
If you cannot give birth to children, you will never understand
parental love. Even though you study parental love for thousands of
years, you cannot understand it. But right after the birth of a child,
you will know it instantly.
The human baby looks for its mother's milk and the animal baby also
looks for its mother's milk. It is a natural behavior, because the
power of love works there. It doesn't have to do with education or
True love is not to be inculcated by education, but is to be
established naturally, because it is the heavenly law. It is a tragic
result of the fall that we cannot see sincere love in human society
nowadays, and we are relegated to learn true love through education
Parental love doesn't measure how pretty or ugly the child is, and a
child's respect and love toward its parents doesn't depend upon the
parents' external appearance. Is there any son who denies his mother
because she looks ugly? There are no parents who reject their children
because they look ugly. If there are such parents and children, they
are beasts born human by mistake, not human beings.
What kind of person was Jesus? From where did his reasoning come? He
didn't say, "Behave well and you'll to go to the Kingdom of Heaven."
Rather, he said, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one
comes to the Father except through me." Jesus didn't tell us to learn
but to follow. Christians come to resemble Jesus by following him.
Did you have to learn that you must have love in your family? Does a
father teach children the way of love? Does a mother push children to
desire love? From whom did the parents learn to love children? From
whom do a bride and a bridegroom learn how to love? It is mysterious
that we do certain things well without learning.
You all know the existence of air, don't you? Every day you breathe
air in and out, but you seldom think about it. Everybody receives the
sunlight, but have you greeted the sun with the grateful heart? Have
you learned how to do that?
What about drinking water? Were you taught to drink water? Nobody
learned it. We didn't "learn" the most precious things.
Let's think about the precious sunlight. If the sun doesn't show up
for two days, what will happen on earth? If the air goes on strike for
fifteen minutes, what will happen on earth? Then we will accomplish
world unity so easily. We wouldn't need the title of the Unification
Church. It would be very simple to accomplish world unity in ten
Did you learn to breathe air or drink water? We are to know the way
automatically. All the precious things in the world are like that. If
God exists, He will be much more precious than those. How can human
beings know Him? Originally, we get to know Him without learning.
7. THE PATH OF LIFE CENTERING UPON LOVE
Which is first, life or love? Love precedes life. Without the flow of
love, existence has no value.
Who am l? What is the origin of "I"? "I" originated from parents. Why
am I precious? Because I participated in my parents' love. And there I
participated in the universe.
We should know why we were born. We were not born out of knowledge or
authority. Because of love we were born and we were born of love.
Then why is love so great? Because it is the origin of life. You were
born in the midst of parents' love. You were not born out of counting
money or out of singing songs of knowledge. Our life was initiated by
love, so we have to conclude it with love. That's why we need
children. When a husband and a wife in oneness have the object called
"children," they are perfect.
Human beings cannot exist without love. The existence called "I" lives
on the foundation of love.
The origin of all things also is God's love. Because the existence of
all things started on the foundation of love, it is undeniable that
the existence of the center of the created world -- the human being --
started from love.
Since human beings start their life from love and become mature by
love, they cannot survive without love.
When we think about the origin of life, we soon encounter the ques-
tion, "Is life first or love first?" So far we haven't distinguished
the answer clearly. Love precedes life. Because the next-born should
adjust to the firstborn, it is natural to sacrifice life for love.
This concept should be settled definitively. Then the answer to the
question of how to lead a true life follows automatically. Since life
originates from love, we can conclude that life should live and die
for love. First, we are to look for the love that the macro-cosmos
welcomes. Second, we are to be born out of "the love of the macro-
cosmos" which can be acknowledged by God, the angelic world, all
things and our parents. Third, we are to live and die in the midst of
"the love of the macro-cosmos." That is the purpose of life.
Human beings are not born out of their own will or hope. Then, are we
born of the hope of our parents? No, we aren't. We are born of God's
hope. In other words, we were born of parental love, which is the
substitute for God. "I" was born as a new life form out of parental
love representing God. It is "I" who was born as the central existence
of the whole universe receiving all the universal love.
The utmost purpose of life is to be born of love, to be raised up by
love, to live by love, and to leave love to the next generations. The
most valuable job is to fulfill the order (command of love -- the
center of the universe.
In maintaining life, human beings who live for themselves cannot
protect the "domain of the objects." God created the creature for the
sake of His objects. The happiest way of life is to give love which
endows equal value and equal ownership to the objects (or subjects).
The path of life is to find the way to inherit the universe, which God
desires to bequeath.
Every existence definitely moves. This is a fundamental law of
existence. This law of movement applies not only to living things but
also to non-living things. The nature of the movement is orderly and
principled. This is because the order and the principle cannot exist
without a certain predetermined purpose. Therefore, every existence
moves by order and principle centering on a very certain purpose.
To live and to act is not something meaningless. It has a clear
purpose. The purpose is to realize the world of love. Human beings
exist to actualize love with the purpose to accomplish love. Since the
purpose of human life is the actualization of true love, human value
is also determined by true love. Isn't it wonderful?
What is the origin of human existence? It is love. Then what is the
purpose of it? It is to complete the ideal of love. Because human
existence originates from love, the purpose of it is to establish the
foundation of love and to extend it, and finally to complete it. In
order to do that, a man and a woman in relative positions should be
one centering upon love and should be able to relate their oneness to
"front and rear," "left and right," and "up and down."
Even though we conform to the absolute existence and establish the
absolute purpose, everything is useless if there is no joy. Living
should be joyful. We make a living for a purpose. When we accomplish
the purpose, there must be something new beyond the existence itself.
What is it? What is the most precious thing for a man and a woman? It
is love. When you accomplish a purpose, there comes happiness and new
development. Love is the only component of that happiness which can be
related to the new development. No matter how well you accomplish the
purpose, if the process is not under the dominion of love, you will be
dissatisfied and seek after some other purpose. The limitations
imposed by purpose cannot overrule love.
For what do you live? To eat, to work, or for nothing? Human beings
live to love. How beautiful an answer it is! Originally, human life is
to be born as the fruit of love, to live in love, and to return to the
eternal love of God.
A life lived for love is a productive, fruitful life, and a life
lacking love, or not knowing love, is a consumptive, destructive life.
The original attitude of life for God, man and the universe is to live
Life comes from love. Human life is to be born of love, to receive
love from parents, to meet a spouse in love, and to die in love.
Therefore, sadness or suffering originally were not supposed to be a
part of life.
Human beings shouldn't forget that when they were embryos in the
mother's womb, they not only received physical nutrients but also
love. Likewise, human beings in this physical world are not only
supplied with materialistic nutrients, but also with the essential
factor of life -- the love of God.
The fundamental place in the universe is the place where parental
love, conjugal love and children's love are united. This is the place
where the whole universe concentrates and toward which all the cells
of the universe are directed. All the gods of the spirit world also
concentrate on this place and they are to protect this place so that
it not be invaded by anybody. Therefore, to be protected, you need the
form called "the four position foundation."
All plants absorb sunlight as a positive element; likewise, love is
the positive element for human beings. Our hope is to establish the
Kingdom of Heaven on earth and the Kingdom of Heaven in the spirit
world, where human beings can live together with love eternally.
Human beings are born of love and grow by receiving love in the growth
period. When they grow to a certain level, parental love is not enough
to sustain continued growth. So they start extending horizontal love
centering upon fraternal love and tribal love. That is to say, human
beings are to grow receiving all the different types of love in the
universe. Especially in adolescence they pursue the love of the other
sex, and by loving the other the center of love.
A man and a woman exist for love. My way is the way of love. We live
to gain love, to keep love and to establish the loving environment.
Women apply makeup and massage their faces because of love. Wanting
something or working is for love. We endure suffering in order to gain
From the time of birth, we receive parental love, and as long as we
survive we continuously love regardless of whether we are in
childhood, youth or adulthood. After growing up, horizontal, conjugal
love takes place for everybody.
What is marriage? It is entering a school where men learn what they
don't know about women and women learn what they don't know about men.
When the grade is "A+", a husband and wife are happy. In order to
learn to love the world, we give birth to children. Without children,
we cannot be connected to the future. Children are given as the
educational resource for us to be related to the future. To be dutiful
to one's ancestors is to receive an education from the spirit world.
All of these are connected centering upon love. Grandparents, a
husband and wife, and children are all related centering upon one
love. Like the blood vessels of the human body, we can go up to the
ancestors through thousands of generations and go down to our distant
descendants through love. Everything is conquered by this. The utmost
happiness is to become the slave of love and the servant of love.
Who has the greatest authority in this world? The conclusion is drawn
that the person who has gone through the way of servant more than
anybody else is the one with the greatest authority. This is God's
philosophy, Reverend Moon's philosophy and our members' philosophy.
I have much experience of spirit world; it is the place covered with
the ingredients of love. The earth is covered with air but love is the
atmosphere of the spirit world. We breathe in air and breathe out
carbon dioxide on earth, but we are to live by breathing love in the
spirit world. We are not to give and take centering upon secular human
love in the spirit world. We only give and take true love there.
Why do you get married? In order to experience parental love, conjugal
love and children's love. Then why do we need those? The spirit world
is surrounded by the air of such love. We have to form a family in
order to gain the discipline to keep the beat with the spirit world.
If you go to spirit world lacking the feeling of true love, you will
not be able to keep the beat. You will be like someone who doesn't
have a nose to smell the air of love.
How can we express God's love? It is like a warm spring when the white
clouds are floating up in the sky, the air is shimmering, bugs and
ants crawl from place to place, a willow bud beside the brook starts
sprouting, frogs sing a song of spring, and everywhere bees and
butterflies are flying. We can eternally feel joy by being intoxicated
in such an environment. The feeling that we perceive from our ideal
spouse is like a flower garden where butterflies and bees are flying
all about. Don't you feel good just imagining it?
When meeting a welcomed person, we shake hands. When you shake hands
with your friend, saying, "Nice to see you again," don't you feel
good? When you are really welcoming a friend, you squeeze the friend's
hands strongly, right? If you shake hands in deep love, you never want
to release them.
Sisters! Do you feel good or bad when your husband loves you? When you
are loved, there is nothing for you to feel jealous about. Sisters
feel good when their husband squeezes their hands, even if his hand is
as ugly as the front foot of a cow. While watching a movie, they want
to pick up such a hand.
Love is eternal. Love is one, not two. In love, a man and a woman
completely stick to each other. That is God's love. Can we be one with
such love? Think about it. We all are to become one.
God's dwelling place is filled with love. Once we start giving, we
want to give more and more, and once we receive, we want to return
thousands of times more. Is such a place the Kingdom of Heaven or
hell? (The Kingdom of Heaven.) Due to the everlasting cycle of giving
and receiving, we come to feel an explosive stimulation. We feel so
stimulated that it seems like all our cells are about to burst. God's
love is like that.
Once you experience such love, you never want anything else. Opium is
nothing in comparison with such love. Liquor cannot compete with love.
People get intoxicated by drinking, but originally we are supposed to
live intoxicated by love.
If you know that point clearly, you will not feel it difficult to
carry any cross of love. It is a pride and glory to make conditions
again and again for your beloved one.
All kinds of accidents happen when a man and woman are in love. But if
you taste God's true love . . . nothing can be compared with it. If
people taste God's love, nothing can conquer them. There should be
such an absolute dominion of liberation. The only problem is how to
find this out.
The people who had a deep experience of love with their parents,
brothers and sisters, spouse and children can enjoy complete freedom
in the spirit world. They can go wherever they want to go without any
limitation. On the contrary, narrow minded people who don't have any
loving experience will be isolated, with no freedom at all in the
Love between parent and child is vertical. Love between husband and
wife is horizontal. Love of brothers and sisters turns around an
orbit. Therefore, when we experience these three kinds of love on
earth, we will be able to move vertically, horizontally and
spherically in the spirit world.
For example, people who didn't taste parental love because of their
parents' early deaths will be very miserable in the spirit world,
since they lack an important part of life. The same applies to those
who are lacking in conjugal love, children's love or the fraternal
love between brothers and sisters.
What sort of place is the hometown? It is the place where my heart is
lifted up completely, spherically, in the four directions. What is
heart? It is something by which to tie things up with love. The
original home is the place where we are bound to parents, bound left
and right in the bond of husband and wife, and bound downward to
children and relatives. It is the place where every existence is tied
to every other in spherical love. Because human beings consider
happiness centering upon love the cardinal point and the most precious
thing, they inevitably miss their hometown.
Why does a human being have an eternal life? Why does everyone seek
for eternal life? Because God is an absolute and eternal subject, we
have to be absolute and eternal in order to be His objects. When we
stand in such a position, "up" is "down" and God is us. When we become
one with God in love, He can even enter our pocket.
Human beings stay in the maternal womb for a certain period of time,
then they live on earth, and finally they come to face death.
Therefore, when getting older, we develop the fear of death. That's
because we don't have faith in life after death.
Human beings stay in the mother's womb for ten months. Little fetuses
have a life of limitation. All they can do in the mother's womb is
stretch the fingers in and out, open and close the mouth, or kick a
little bit while receiving nutrients through the umbilical cord. They
probably think that they are in the free world. After nine months,
they move into this physical world -- the human society. From here we
imagine we had such a restrained life in the womb, even though we
don't remember it clearly.
Human beings on earth live within the womb of the universe for around
100 years. As the fetuses don't know the world outside the mother's
womb, people living in the physical world are ignorant of the world
after death. They just have a vague impression about it. But the
existence of the world after death is definitely evident. It exists
just beyond our five physical senses. So, we have to overcome
ignorance and doubt through our faith in religion.
The mind of people regardless of time period (past, present or future)
longs for same thing: the human mind always seeks for the happy world
of the mind. It seeks after the ideal spouse of the mind, the ideal
family of the mind and the ideal world of the mind.
You were born from your parents. The more fundamental fact is that you
were born from God. He just borrowed your mother's womb. You are to
look for true parents through the "universal parents" and the physical
parents. Your physical parents are temporary parents. Therefore, the
moment of death is a joyful time to meet your true parents. The true
love of the true parents dwells in the spirit world. That's called the
Kingdom of Heaven in the spirit world.
That place is composed of love and is filled with parental love. Love
has the principle of service and sacrifice. In order to pass there,
you have to love the universe and humankind. Physical life is the
place to discipline yourself to practice such love. Now you know the
essence of the universe, so you must draw the conclusion that you will
surely return to God when you go to the spirit world after passing the
test of love on earth.
Even all things will bless the people who lead a life of love. Flowers
want to blossom in their yards and birds want to sing songs in their
garden. That's because such people know the value of all things and
truly love them as well.
In the spirit world, you are to be paid back according to what you did
on earth. The door to the Kingdom of Heaven will be open to you
because of the Blessing that you received from Father. But to proceed,
the spirit world must pull you through the orbit of heart. So you
cannot proceed unless your heart is in harmony with the spirit world.
At the time of entering the spirit world, you will have to traverse
hills of judgment.
Why do we live? Do you live in order to be a president of a certain
company, or to eat and sleep? If you live in order to survive, where
will you go after it is all over? Where do you go after eating? Do you
go to school or to your company? Where do you go? We are to go looking
in response to the antennae of love. What is American-style love?
According to a recent California survey, 90% of people there have an
experience with divorce. What kind of love is that?
Why is jewelry valuable? Gold or diamonds are valuable because they
are unchanging. What is the most precious thing in the world? It is
true love, not jewelry.
True love is unchanging. Is there any objection? American young people
need parents in order to find unchanging love.
Even after breaking up with a spouse, parental love never changes. The
mother's true love is to sacrifice for the children even after her
husband's death. By doing so, her true love toward her husband
remains. When the mother abandons her children after her husbands'
death and lives for her self, her love toward both husband and
children disappears. Even though her husband dies, a mother who lives
for the sake of her children can find the love of the whole. Such a
mother keeps true parental love, the true wifely love, and the true
love of children. Through the couple's children, the husband's love
can be inherited. The son of such a mother will want to live for his
mother several times more than before, in order to fill the gap
created by his father's absence. There exists the deep vertical love
much more precious than conjugal love. The same applies in the case of
a wife's death.
This fundamental order, which is eternally harmonious, exists in the
midst of unchanging love.
A husband and wife in true love don't boast about themselves to each
other; instead, they praise each other's good points. Such a couple
truly leads a life of love. All kinds of sounds will be heard in the
place of such love, even the sound of electricity in an electrical
cord. How noisy will be the thunder of love? People who have been
sleeping for 1,000 years will wake up right away. They will not be
surprised by the sound; instead they will dance in joy as soon as they
wake up. They will dance automatically with. out anybody's request or
Concluding in one word, everything exists for true love. This is the
most logical, universal and ideal conclusion. Myriads of men and women
exist for true love. Sisters should think the following: "Women like
me in past history have never received true love, so my mission is to
restore it. I look like this in order to meet one man who can restore
through indemnity the past history. If I become successful in
fulfilling my mission, I'll be the greatest woman in the history of
restoration and the most precious woman for a man."