Blaming others versus taking responsibility
Here we have a situation. Gordon Muir has for some time now been accusing
the Unification Church of wrongdoing. My understanding is as follows,
and he is welcome to correct me. He says that he joined the Unification
Church in Scotland in 1985. The person who introduced him to the church was
Stewart Webster. Gordon believes that he was a good and faithful member,
did what was asked, and expected to be matched with a wife and married in
the church. However, for whatever reason, this did not happen, and now he
is filled with anger and resentment and is waging an ongoing campaign of
threatening letters and verbal assaults and threats against church members,
on the Internet and by phone and regular mail.
He somehow still believes that Rev. Moon is the Messiah, but he cannot
trust the church members. He believes that they routinely lie to people,
and that is his ongoing accusation.
Gordon, as long as you continue to blame others, you are stuck. As I
told you before, the character of the fallen archangel Satan is to blame
others. He will not take responsibility for others, but wants to place blame
and responsibility with other people. The character of a true man on the other
hand, true Adam, is to take responsibility for the sins of others. Jesus did
this, he took responsibility. Even though he was innocent, he was willing
to take responsibility for the sins of the world.
So the question is, which one do you want to emulate? If you want to emulate
Satan, then go ahead and continue to blame others. The consequence of this
is that you will be unable to feel God, you will be unable to perceive your
own value, you will be stuck in the mode of blame. Do you think you gain the
respect of others more by complaining, or by taking responsibility? Do you
think that some future wife would prefer you to be a man who blames others
or one who takes responsibility? All those who criticize Rev. Moon for his
perceived sins are playing the same blame game. As long as you blame others,
you choose to give your power over to the person you accuse. However, when
you take responsibility and ownership of a situation, then you acknowledge
that you have the power to change it.
I am sorry that you feel that the people in the church lied to you. I
don’t know Stewart Webster, so I am not able to judge whether he is good
or bad. I believe he was doing his best, but from what you are saying, I also
believe that he was unable to love you adequately to dissolve your resentment.
Again, take this back to the Lucifer versus Adam archetypal relationship,
which was mirrored in the Cain and Abel relationship. You could say that
Stewart Webster was in an Abel position to you and you were in the Cain
position. But because he was unable to love you adequately, you rebelled
against him and to this day, you hold resentment against him. What can you
learn from this? Was Stewart Webster evil or was he perhaps immature? Did
he really lie to you? Perhaps if you had been able to take responsibility
for your life, then the things he said would come to you would have in fact
occurred. Could it be that the responsibility for his words not becoming
reality lie more with you than with him? If he was unable to help you overcome
your resentment, then you need to find someone else who can, or perhaps you
could recognize how hard it is for God to save this world when he cannot find
people to heal the resentment of people such as yourself. Then cry for God,
rather than crying for yourself.
We need to find people who can solve the resentment of every single human
being, and even God Himself. If we cannot solve the resentment of terrorists,
then we are doomed to live with their murderous rage.
Stewart represented himself as a follower of the Messiah, yet he did not
love you as God loves you, so you have resentment. However, the kind of love
you want is the love that gives you everything you want, rather than what
you need. Before you can be qualified to have a wife, you need to overcome
this character of blaming others.
It has been God’s headache that despite the fact that he sent
great religious leaders into the world, very few people have lived up to
the elevated standards they taught. So, the worst advertisement for Christ
is often Christians, and often the worst advertisement for Rev. Moon and
Unificationism is Unificationists. It would certainly be helpful for you and
others if someone in the church were able to represent the teachings of our
founder faithfully. But if you are truly a person of integrity, then you need
to have the attitude that even if nobody else lives according to that standard,
you will do it, and then show others by example and not just by precept. So,
you can choose not to be a victim of others, and instead be accountable for
your own actions. So do you choose victimhood or accountability? It is your
choice. It is one difference between Satan and God.
When you are qualified to have a wife, women will want to be around you
without your even looking for them. When you become a true man, you will
attract the kind of mate that your heart longs for. But as long as you
resemble that fallen archangel more than a true man, a good woman will not
want to be around you. However, even when women want to be around you, still
you must not choose your own wife. You must overcome that sexual temptation
of the Fall of Man. That is a topic for another article, coming soon. If
you want God’s blessing, then you must wait for His timing, and He
will give you a woman who will allow you to have the experience of loving
another, and being loved. Then you can also have children whom you can love,
and who will come to love you in return. To get there, you must practice
loving others, covering for their faults, taking responsibility for them,
when all they can do is blame others.