Choose One -
What is your favorite romantic movie? Why?
What’s one thing you do that makes your spouse/significant other romantic?
Recall a fun romantic moment with your parents.
Report to your fellow group members about how you fulfilled the goal to
improve one relationship in your immediate life. Were you successful?
Why or why not
How did it feel?
The Lord God commanded (Adam and Eve),
“You are free to eat from any tree of the garden,; but you must not eat
from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, for when you eat of it, you
shall surely die. The man and his wife were both naked, and they
felt no shame.
When the woman saw that the fruit of
the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable
for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some
to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. The eyes of both
of them were opened and they realized they were naked; so they sowed fig
leaves together and made fig leaves for themselves. (Gen. 2: 15 –
They covered their sexual parts, clearly
indicating that they were ashamed of the sexual areas of their bodies because
they had sinned through them. From this we know that they committed
sin through the sexual parts of their bodies. (Divine Principle,
Due to the Fall of Man this entire plan
was destroyed. If there is absolute love which God desired, and absolute
love which man is seeking, they should become totally one. Without the
unity between God's absolute standard, and the absolute standard which
man is seeking, there will be no absolute ideal world realized. The Fall
can be interpreted as two love pillars. That is why conflict always exists.
In your love relationship as husband and wife, do you want two different
kinds of love or one absolute love? One absolute love, with one absolute
direction. The direction is one and the purpose is one. (1/1/96)
You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I
tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed
adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes
you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose
one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
(Matt 5: 27 – 29)
The above readings suggest that the Fall of Man described in the Bible,
and the “forbidden fruit” was the misuse of sexual love. What evidence
do you see of this being true:
In the world and history?
In you own experience?
Do you think all lovemaking between men and women is “evil?” When
would it be good in God’s eyes?
Since God has both male and female characteristics,
when men and women come together in love they are presenting the total
image of God. Within that "love container" there is always room for two
– man and woman. When men and women come together in total unity, they
become a unit of minus to God, who is the big plus. There is give and take
between that plus and minus. Should Adam and Eve just look at each other
or shouldn't they look together toward God? Yes, together the two of them
look up at God. That is the reason why we teach that before you love your
spouse, you must love God. (1/30/83)
What is the difference between man and woman?
Their bodies, including the sexual organs. Then to whom is man's
sexual organ absolutely necessary? Man's sexual organ exists for
the sake of woman. The human sexual organs are shaped as concave
and convex. Why are they shaped that way? Both of them could be pointed
or both could be flat. Why are they shaped differently? Each is for
the sake of the other. Woman absolutely wants what is man's. And
man absolutely wants what is woman's. Until now, we did not know
the fact that, absolutely, woman's sexual organ is man's and man's sexual
organ is woman's. By owning each other's sexual organs man and woman
come to know True Love. Only through the experience of two becoming
one can we know the highest level of love. No one can absolutely
deny these facts. Everyone should recognize this. At the place where
husband and wife become completely one, the ideal couple will be created.
In that very place, absolute love exists. That place of love, which
is absolutely unchanging, is the dwelling place of God. I call this
“Absolute Sex.” Absolute Sex is centered on God, and free sex is
centered on the Devil. (6/16/97)
The readings suggest that “Absolute Sex” between a man and woman in holy
marriage is only good, but the ultimate “dwelling place of God’ in human
life. Do you think this is true, and why?
The readings also suggest that we must maintain absolute fidelity in marriage
and absolute purity before marriage.
If you are married, how have you seen this is true?
Describe a time when you had to struggle with temptation. How did
If you are not married, do you see the need for purity before you
Describe a time when you struggled with the temptation for “free sex” but
knew that your conscience was telling you “not to eat.”
Think of an area of sexuality in you life where you need to improve.
Perhaps you need to work on “Purity.” Perhaps you need to come closer
to your spouse in True Love and “Absolute Sex.” Write a goal
for the next two weeks to improve your life relative to the idea of Absolute
Sex. No one need know of this except you and God.