Ten Reasons Why Sex Should Wait Until Marriage
- Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like
atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When
atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is
used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful
force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help
in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation
of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside
the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.
- Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological,
social and academic development. Studies show that when young people
engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their
social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because
adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and
it tends to dominate their life.
- The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of
marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security
and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place
sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught,
the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome)
factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.
- Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your
life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in
marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give
to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it
back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.
- Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting
one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their
fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like
herpes have no cure.
- Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples
discover many years later that they became infertile because of these
diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility
is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.
- The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and
other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex
and maintain fidelity in your marriage.
- Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10
Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not
outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can
create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay
a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and
loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can
break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.
- Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate
children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single
mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and
academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need
both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children
who will never have their father's love, protection and care.
- If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that
relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you
date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong,
often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you
break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The
psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your
character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved
spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.
True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want
the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease,
unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital
sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best
place of all - the love nest of marriage.